"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My best failure today: how to recover? ha

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Me: 18 yr old freshman
L: HB8 from class, invited me out as the only freshman to her 21st birthday celebration. We flirt, L recently just got single(IT SEEMS! i didn't know..)
F: HB8 16yr old little sister of L

I show up at L's apartment, grab me n my boys a beer each, and hug L n wish her a happy birthday. Minute later she calls her cute little sister over to introduce her to me. cool. I say hi, talk **** to them about beerpong and how my boy and I will own them, and flirt alil with F. L asks if i need to be introduced to anyone, and then corrects herself "nevermind you're outgoing, you've got it." a minute later i turn around and see them both staring at me as L whispers something, and then they crack up laughing cause I just caught em.
Play some cardgames, F kinos me abit, cool with me man haha. As I said, i thought L still had a boyfriend.

F isolates me. shes going into a back room to make a call, and I brush by her, we talk and as I'm saying I'm going back to the party she bends in and starts making out with me. I go with it and then go outside to see my boys smoking.
My boy just goes "that was a test, good job, you failed."
"Yeah i did, sh!t."
"L has been flirting with you all night, hahah nice. Well make the best of time with her lil sis haha"

I return inside and L is giving me the middle finger. "You guys can make out but thats it, no touching her." fine.
later on L tells me why she introduced me to her sister, “Because I told here there was this cute guy in my Design class, and I thought she should meet you.”
12:15 we head off to the bar and get in, some of the older girls make fun of me n F for holding hands haha “what is this, highschool?” fvck em.
All night me n her lil sis talk, I learn that shes 16, NOT 17, and that L is single. “What, do you have a thing for my sister or something?” Not sure what I said, but it probably didn’t play well in my favor with F.

Blurry-parts, next thing I know F is making out with this lesbian friend of L’s. Hilarious. I told F I didn’t care when she came to apologize. I leave and I go to hug L goodbye, and she starts making out with me. I leave shortly after, laugh my ass off and can’t believe I just made out with 2 sisters in one night.
I was one of 2 guys L made out with that night thou, and the other guy was 22, and didn’t end up sleeping with her.

I'm actually really attracted to L, and wouldn't mind a date or two, but I'm not sure how to transition now, or if i just actually burned that bridge.

In my conclusion the older sis was prob letting her sister check me out and see if I'm a "worthy"/likeable guy because shes embarrassed about my age and doesn't want to confide in her friends? I'm not conceited I just have a good feeling L is attracted to me. she claims to "Not remember anything after the first 3 shots at the bar." and yet she remembers F with the lesbian girl...BS lol.

Thanks :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I had the same kinda thing happen to me recently...except with an aunt (30ish) and her niece (18)... I dunno the best thing to do, just roll with it I guess...which is what it sounds like you did. Women are weird man, you just gotta get while the gettin's good, if you know what I mean.

Probably shouldn't have made out with the sister though if you were going for the chick in your class, though. At least she knows you're a sexual guy though...it's better than not making a move at all on anybody that night and going home with dry balls.
 

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I dont think you burned any bridges at all! and in any case you just need L to realize that age really doesnt matter, Im 19, a second year and college, and let me tell you age doesnt matter. Last year i hooked up with a 25 year last year and we were together for a little while till i transfered schools... plus i dont like the concept of dating underaged girls and I use the term "girl" for a reason. I dont think you really want to start anything with that. just pursue L and forget about F, if L brings her sister up, you always have the excuse of alcohol!?

Hope this helps,
 

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True, thats a huge deal now, shes 21, she'll wanna go out to bars and stuff and you better be able to go along or else she'll find someone else... better get yourself a fake!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have one already so thats no big deal.

Okay so say I havent burned the bridge, I'm sitll kidna confuse.d Do i jsut like...try to party with her again this upcoming weekend? make her ass drive me to get some food?
man being a freshman in the dorms is seriously killing my longterm game: i've already lost 2 older girls this year because of my age/lack of a car or apartment.
 
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