lol, okay there cutie. You got me. You're a Junior, and I geuss you've served me up a heaping helping of humble pie. No matter that not only did I peg you as a high schooler, but I pinned you to within one semester...cuz ya know that
one semester really makes all of the difference, doesn't it???
Semantics and caustic sarcasm aside...it seems that you have made your decision to talk to him. It's obvious he's seen too many movies or is otherwise dilluded as to what a kiss should be. A kiss is the outward expression of inner passion, and is trying WAY too hard to be the volcano of passion he thinks he needs to be. What he needs is not a good lecture, he needs an alternative...
Now, I'm glad to see you're taking a proactive stance here, as you are the one who has to take control in this situation. (you are the teacher here.) That having been said, I'll have to agree with zelemont, and Kensiko. You can tell him anything you like, but that won't help him do it. Remember, a woman lives by words whereas a man lives by actions. Its far better to show him the alternative, a brief example for instance...
My senior year in high school, I was dating a girl with little experience in the kissing dept. Now, there's much more to kissing than just trading spit and wrestling tongues. That's what you need to show him. When we kissed, and she tended towards the tongual gymnastics, I did this...I backed off a little, used my lips to massage hers, all culminating in a gentle bite which lingered as I slowly pulled away until we were staring directly into each other's eyes...
Kissing is a sensual act. The touch of your lips grazing and that electric moment when they seem to fuse. The fruity taste of the balm on your partners lips. The sound of your partners breathing passionately, yet rhythmically with yours. The intoxicating aroma of your partner's scent. The warmth from your bodies melding together, and the closing of your eyes which makes all else in the world disappear until it is only you and your partner. A good kiss will charge the senses and enliven all manner of wonderful sensations.
Its up to you to take charge and show him this sensual side. All talking will do is provide the negative reinforcement that will make him all the more self-conscious, and he's already trying too hard. Again, you must
show him. Best of luck in life, and especially love, cutie.
-CyranoDeBergerac
P.S.: and to Hot Ice, I wasn't trying to put you back in your place or anything. Just trying to offer a little perspective. The more experienced DJ's are here for the likes of you and cutie, just as the more experienced DJ's are still there for us. You'll come along fine, but in the mean time, best leave the advice to those in the know... Looking forward to good things from your direction...
