My Awesome Friday Night: A Testimonial

[DMSR76]

Gentlemen,

I've been a member of sosuave for a little over a year now. I joined the site a couple of months after stumbling upon it during one of my then frequent bouts of frustration with women. I confess that I'm a bit of a lurker.... I haven't posted very much during my time on sosuave, but I've spent quite a bit of time reading the article and archives. I knew that I'd learned a lot from the experiences and advice of other posters, but it wasn't until last night that I realized just how much I'd soaked in and allowed to incorporate into my persona.

Owing largely to above average looks, I've dated my share of women.... even had a few LTRs that left me dazed, confused and thoroughly frustrated after their inevitable meltdowns. The reason for my dissatisfaction didn't become apparent to me until visiting this site. I met women through passive interaction, usually through mutual friends and usually in situations where the woman was the one who showed the initiative. As an unsurprising result, I had a knack for collecting a lot of the bottom feeder types of women that are always the subject of threads on this site. And the saddest part about it was IT WAS ALL MY FAULT. The company a man keeps mirrors the persona he projects.

Last night I successfully navigated 4 night venues, strongly connected/ exchanged info with 7 women (5 were HB 7 or better), and spent a grand total of 20 bucks in the process ($12 on drinks, $8 on food). Not a dime on women. This is far from a bragging thread, but rather a celebration thread considering where I was just over a year ago.

 

[DMSR76]

I left the pad at about 8:00 to have a drink at a bar about 3 three minutes away from my house. My true objective was to make a second pass at a beautiful HB9 bartender there that I met the previous weekend. (I flirted with her last week and prematurely attempted a number close that was unsuccessful. During a our brief interaction I never got the impression that she was uninterested, so that prompted me to try at least one return pass. I gotta admit... I REALLY dig this chick.) Last night we chatted a bit and flirted a bit more, this time discovering some commonalities in our backgrounds. When it things got busy, I moved around, made banter with various guys and ladies in the bar. After finishing my drinks I again stopped by the bar, gave her my business card, and bailed. (It dawned on me that there might be a policy against fraternization there, so I gave it the benefit of the doubt.) I just let the chips fall where they may. It would be great if she actually contacted me, but the knowledge that I made concerted effort to connect satisfied me. There were no regrets.

The 3 remaining venues were where the night really took off. I had a free pass to a new club that I decided to check out. I'm not much of a club person, but for some reason I was immediately in a groove. Within 5 minutes I spotted this (22 y/o?) HB9 chatting with her friend. Beer in hand, I thought "what the hell' and walked over. I energetically opened the conversation with her and her the friend, but I made her the focus of my attention. After a couple minutes, another guy began chatting up the friend. Within 10 minutes, we were all on the dance floor having a great time. After a bit more chatting I got her info and bid her adieu before roaming to mingle further. Interestingly, the HB9 admitted/ lamented during the conversation that guys rarely approach her. I understood this to be true, because I noticed that virtually NO ONE approached her or any the handful of >HB8s in the club. Dudes just stood there like deer in headlights in her presence. This was the case even after I walked away. Bored, she and her friend left shortly thereafter.

The next girl I approached caught my eye on the dance floor. She was a HB7, a helluva dancer, and her short, low cut dress made my day. I again walked right up and immediately chatted her up. We hit it off, and even danced a bit. I exchanged info with her and moved on to the next venue.

 

[DMSR76]

The 3rd venue and 4th venues were where all the skills I'd learned on sosuave really became apparent. I walked into venue 3 and didn't buy a drink, as I wasn't really impressed with the set. I was about to turn around and leave when I noticed a 23 y/o HB7 (probably the most attractive thing there) standing with her friend. I walked over, opened her, and again within 10 minutes we were grinding on the dance floor. I exchanged info with the woman, and set a course for home. What was significant about that approach was the fact that I didn't have a drink in my hand to serve as a crutch. I used to be the 'everyman' who would stand aimlessly in one spot with a drink at my waist, NOT approaching women that I found attractive, and regretting it later. I was one of those very guys who were too chickensiht to approach the HB8s an 9s at the previous venue.

I had no intention of going anywhere else, but something within me prompted me to make a stop at one last lounge, just to see what was going on. The place was pretty dead, and I again almost turned around when I spotted this pretty woman sitting at a table with two friends. After attempting to make eye contact with the woman (I was so far away I couldn't tell), I thought 'screw it' and made a bee-line towards the trio. (Again, no drink in hand.) I greeted all of the women, joked with them about the set of balls required to make such a wing-less approach, and we instantly hit it off. We talked for about 40 minutes until closing time neared. I had such a rapport with the trio that they requested that I join them at an after hours eatery. After an initial hesitation, I accepted.

I can't lie... I felt like the Dos Equis guy while hanging with these ladies. The women clung to my every word. While sitting there, I got a buzz from the HB7 that I met at the 3rd venue. Caught me by surprise.... I remembered that I told her matter-of-factly to hit me later. Now she wanted to "hang out". As Murphy's Law would have it, it took forever for the the food and the check to arrive, and by the time I got away from the restaurant the would-be ONS had fallen asleep. That was the lone blemish on the night. I exchanged info with two of the three women I dined with (the 3rd had a boyfriend who showed up), and I headed home. Most importantly, I got target number I wanted.

 

[DMSR76]

When I got home, I realized just how awesome a night I had. Who knows whether any of the connections I made will stick? More significantly, who cares? For the first time, it seemed that all the lights were on in my mind. I felt like Neo on the Matrix the moment he had his epiphany. I approached women with no fear and I dictated the flow of interaction with high energy and masculinity. Shoulders back, strong eye contact, and a devil may care attitude.

I've read a lot of debates on this site regarding various topics. Some insightful, others not so much. However, the take home messages of masculine confidence, energy, and the destruction pedestals have greatly enriched my world view. I thank my brothers on sosuave for helping me awaken from the AFC cocoon I lived in for some 31 1/2 years. It's great to be a MAN.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

Good post. Welcome aboard, and enjoy the ride.

The best part is that once you get going the fear diminishes, and this level of success becomes routine.

Best of luck.