My apologies to the internet guys!

[frivolousz21]

This is my official apology to internet guys...at first when I was more AFC and less confident..I said meeting on the internet was weak.

well, **** me for that..I met a girl off myspace..sunday..a HB8 from Saint Louis University..we went to the riverfront to get a coffee..then went back to her dorm....didnt close the deal...but got something from it.

thats amazing...I say meet women BY WHATEVER MEANS..

 

[MixMaxster]

internet dating is difficult because it requires a lot of chance. Most of the time you're going to meet people who go on these online dating sites for a reason (personal problems/issues, ugly, crazy, too shy, etc.), but sometimes there are people on these things that are pretty good. You just have to find them and that's not always the easy part.

 

[Alpine]

She could still be an axe murderer, watch your back!

 

[Jariel]

I agree that actually meeting women is what's important, not how.

Anyway, congratulations and good luck!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
This is my official apology to internet guys...at first when I was more AFC and less confident..I said meeting on the internet was weak.

well, **** me for that..I met a girl off myspace..sunday..a HB8 from Saint Louis University..we went to the riverfront to get a coffee..then went back to her dorm....didnt close the deal...but got something from it.

thats amazing...I say meet women BY WHATEVER MEANS..

So did you have to do anything that was different than your typical sarging methods? For me it's just a matter of qualifying. Other than that, it's not much different.

 

[PRMoon]

Still not a believer

I still think internet dating is risky. Not that it's something I've ruled out completely. When I moved from Maryland to Hawaii for my first year of college, I took a gamble on a HB7 named janelle and that worked out okay. But you know things could of gone horribly wrong as well. It's just a dice roll becuase the internet is a way of communicating without any accountability. I mean people send pictures of other people instead of themselves all the time because their lonely and they think that this type of interaction is a suitable replacement.

Me i think the opposite, I spend as much time in the feild as possible and as little time as possible meeting a girl and sending her emails as possible. I want to call her and coax her into going out where we can be with other people. If I'm going to send a girl an email she'd better be a 8.5 or higher and she'd better express major intrest also not reside inside of a 5 hour drive to my home or i'll just think she's weird.

 

[frivolousz21]

I felt more of a need to prove myself..but then I realized that would end up probably looking like I was overdoing it.

instead of asking all normal stupid ****..I was more relaxed with shorter messages..saying very little about myself..while being ****y and funny with outlandish stuff.

for instance...the girl i wrote I said.

Jane Doe

2 things:

1. you love the cards and they love you

2. your so hot it hurts

her reply:


Chris

2 things:

1. if you love the cards your awesome

2. thanks, your quite delicious urself



another example:


HEY,

why should we love you, or I?

her reply:

you should love me CHris(title)


because a girl needs all the love she can get! and by the way...i'm gonna have to agree with you...i love sex too haha


I dont know if this really matters to much what you say..but dont be all bland and boring.


my pic on there even sucks..got rated a 8.6 on hotornot..and it sucks...but on Myspace it just depends on how much personality you can throw into ur profile and emails.

also dont get wrapped into just the internet..but it can help ur skills..remember if they like you for what you show them on the NET..dont be a ***** and show them a differnt you in person.

and id say still meet over 50 percent of ur women in person.

but I work 40 to 50 hours per week..in a lab by myself...so this is something I feel the need to do.
and I enjoy the time saving

 

[Luveno]

Apology accepted

 

[thefonz]

It'll take a long hard commitment but i'll find a way to let it slide friv......

P.S always good to hear from you ya busy bastard

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by MixMaxster
internet dating is difficult because it requires a lot of chance. Most of the time you're going to meet people who go on these online dating sites for a reason (personal problems/issues, ugly, crazy, too shy, etc.), but sometimes there are people on these things that are pretty good. You just have to find them and that's not always the easy part.

For the life of me, I don't understand why people believe this. Online dating is nothing more than another way to meet new people. It's actually better than meeting people in person because the people on the dating sites are all looking for someone, too. This eliminates approaching people who are married, engaged, otherwise involved and not interested people. Online dating sites do a lot of the "weeding out" for you. The people who use those sites aren't overwhelmingly freaks or defective. They've just figured out that in the technological boom the internet has created that it's easier to find people who are also looking to meet new people by utilizing the internet.

Anyone looking for dates should use online dating if they have the means to do so. As long as it's being used to meet people and NOT just as an excuse to stay home and only talk online then it's a great tool.

 

[MacDiddy]

Your apology only serves to reinforce the old addage

"Don't knock it till you try it!!!"

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by MixMaxster
internet dating is difficult because it requires a lot of chance. Most of the time you're going to meet people who go on these online dating sites for a reason (personal problems/issues, ugly, crazy, too shy, etc.), but sometimes there are people on these things that are pretty good. You just have to find them and that's not always the easy part.

You also face these problems with girls you meet in person....I don't understand what all this internet hating is about. Every one brings up what you said and I will repeat to everyone who says this that "offline" dating is no different. You're likely to meet as many ugly and psycho chicks in person.



P.S. For once I agree with Wyldfire

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
You also face these problems with girls you meet in person....I don't understand what all this internet hating is about.

Those who can , do. Those who can't, gripe.

 

[TurboOverCubicInches]

I've only met a small number of people off the internet. But two of my friends meet people of the internet fairly regularly. It honestly is not all that different from regular dating. Yes, a few people are on there for reasons such as ugly, bad people skills, lonely, etc, but i believe most of the peolpe there are just looking for another avenue of meeting people. You are just as likely to meet a noodle brain in the bar as you are on the net.

 

[blue17]

As each day passes, internet dating becomes more mainstream and a more of a viable option. Think about how much popularity it's gained in the last year or two, I imagine it'll be that much more popular in a few years.

 

[Double J]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
You also face these problems with girls you meet in person....I don't understand what all this internet hating is about. Every one brings up what you said and I will repeat to everyone who says this that "offline" dating is no different. You're likely to meet as many ugly and psycho chicks in person.



P.S. For once I agree with Wyldfire

The only difference is that when you're dealing with people online, a girl might want to take her time getting to know you well and building rapport before meeting face to face. It might be a gradual process and you might have to invest more time in this than you'd care to. Not saying this is always the case, but many times it is. That's why you gotta make sure she doesn't give you a phony pic of herself - then you're gonna feel you've wasted your time completely.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Double J
The only difference is that when you're dealing with people online, a girl might want to take her time getting to know you well and building rapport before meeting face to face. It might be a gradual process and you might have to invest more time in this than you'd care to. Not saying this is always the case, but many times it is. That's why you gotta make sure she doesn't give you a phony pic of herself - then you're gonna feel you've wasted your time completely.

This only happens when a guy doesn't have the balls to realize he is wasting his time. This can be avoided if he learns how to qualify and spend his time pursuing women with high interest levels. If he chooses to put up with this BS, he usually gets exactly what he deserves, usually nothing.

 

[frivolousz21]

Ive noticed that when I meet someone in person..the it becomes more physical faster.

the only thing I want to know is how do you avoid trying to go to far to show who you are?

I always wonder how does DJ distinguish himself from an AFC...I try to make my emials shorter, funnier, and more open ended sometimes to look "cool" but I dont want to be someone im not...but at the same time..I cant use eye contact, my body language or hands to get what I want done either!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
Ive noticed that when I meet someone in person..the it becomes more physical faster.

the only thing I want to know is how do you avoid trying to go to far to show who you are?

I always wonder how does DJ distinguish himself from an AFC...I try to make my emials shorter, funnier, and more open ended sometimes to look "cool" but I dont want to be someone im not...but at the same time..I cant use eye contact, my body language or hands to get what I want done either!

DJs don't sell themself. They don't have anything to prove either. THAT is what separate DJs from AFCs. DJs are along for the ride enjoying the scenery along the way while AFCs are constantly asking "Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet?"

DJs have the confidence and personality that subliminally says "Hey, I like myself." We enjoy the moment no matter where we are or who we're with.

The last few women I've met from the Net have each described me as laid back and comfortable. That they enjoy just hanging out with me because they feel comfortable with me. They tell me that they feel as if they've known me for quite a while. I already know this because they normally grab my arm or hand when we walk to or from the car, they also readily return my kino during the date.

One actually told me that it felt refreshing that I hadn't put them under the pressure of answering questions like "What kind of guy do you like?" "Are you a freak in bed?" "Do you kiss on the first date?" and "Do you want to go out again sometime?" It's all about control.

Do I care if they kiss on the first date? No, but if they want to go out again there needs to be some type of intimate kino. Do I care if she's a freak in bed? Nope, if she isn't at first I could change that. Do I care what kind of guy she likes? Not one bit, she either likes me or not, why stress over it? Do I care if she wants to go out again? It would be nice (if I enjoy her company), but if not, no biggie; I usually have a date with another woman set up within the next day to a week.

So in a nutshell, keep your cool. Let the woman qualify herself to you. Don't force things however if things progress' quickly on their own, don't mess up the flow by becoming afraid and slipping back into AFC mode.