"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My "Alpha widow" experience

Greasy Pig

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Was tuning this HB 7.5 on Friday night and doing very well, or so I thought!

She approached and asked if she could buy me a drink, there was lots of kino and laughing. Then we went outside for a smoke and she says: "Fvck, there's my ex over there. He is such a fvcking douche and thinks he's so awesome."

I knew I was in trouble right then. This guy was dressed like a bum and leaning on a pole obviously very drunk but he was pretty fit and looked fairly cool.

Anyway, I try to usher HB7.5 back in to the club but the bouncers told us we had to line up again. Fuk! That meant we had to walk past this dude and, sure enough, she stops to talk to him.
I kept walking and started talking to two girls in the line. Then, as I get to the door, she yells out, "I'll see you in there". I just laughed and ignored her.

Of course she never returned. The funny thing is that on FB the next day she posted a huge rant about this guy being a player, and too afraid to commit and sleeping around blah blah blah.
Very insightful for me and had to share with the group.
Alpha widow-ism exists!!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Greasy Pig said:
Was tuning this HB 7.5 on Friday night and doing very well, or so I thought!

She approached and asked if she could buy me a drink, there was lots of kino and laughing. Then we went outside for a smoke and she says: "Fvck, there's my ex over there. He is such a fvcking douche and thinks he's so awesome."

I knew I was in trouble right then. This guy was dressed like a bum and leaning on a pole obviously very drunk but he was pretty fit and looked fairly cool.

Anyway, I try to usher HB7.5 back in to the club but the bouncers told us we had to line up again. Fuk! That meant we had to walk past this dude and, sure enough, she stops to talk to him.
I kept walking and started talking to two girls in the line. Then, as I get to the door, she yells out, "I'll see you in there". I just laughed and ignored her.

Of course she never returned. The funny thing is that on FB the next day she posted a huge rant about this guy being a player, and too afraid to commit and sleeping around blah blah blah.
Very insightful for me and had to share with the group.
Alpha widow-ism exists!!!
alpha widows defineatly exist. hell i've been there before. t he funny thing is, that you realize for whatg it is you really can't even get mad at the girl. sometimes **** just happens. just tip your hat to the dude and respect the game and move on. **** there are 2 girls i dated in the past that there is no doubt if i showed up whatever they are in right now is getting wrecked instantly. my wife the same way if something ever happened i don't care how much she rants about how arrogant or selfish i am let me call her lol.

just take solice that someday that you will have some girl sitting outside the bar talking to some guy and she will see you and **** will hit the fan and dude will be like "oh **** what's going on" and next thing you know she's telling you, in your bed lol, how much of a jerk you are.
 

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Ha ha, very true BB. I just laugh about it because I've been "that guy".
Once I found myself in a cab line behind a chick I'd fvcked a few weeks earlier. She was with some other dude but she latched on to me. The look on his face was priceless.

You're exactly right, you should just tip your hat to the game and move on.
I thought it was funny how HB7.5 was fully ragging on him to me but still needed his attention when he refused to acknowledge her.
It was poetry in motion.
 
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