I kinda already did. But the story only talks about "how" she dumped me. Not the signs that I missed. Here's the thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=80450&highlight=dumped
Also, there is something that in retrospect was different. She did say all the things I posted, but I realized later she also said, "I'm not madly in love with you, that's just not the way I feel, even though I see all the great things about you, and I care about you as a person".
Okay, so you want to know about the relation ship...hmm...Well it started here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=63772
And it continued with high IL for a while after that. Up until about June I think.
We went on alot of interesting dates, I didn't tell her that much about myself, but I kept the confidence up. Positives about this girl:
Independant, but also feminine.
Not needy at all. She lets me do my own ****.
Doesn't nag, never *****es at me.
Pays her way, and knows about dating "equality".
Very sweet and caring person. Genuinely wants to do good for other people.
Doesn't backstab, very intelligent. (Civil Engineer.)
Has a ****load of lingere.
Even got me something I really wanted on Valentines. As a surprise for me
Negatives:
Rarely in the mood for sex. (I know...This is a BIG red flag. But it had been this way our entire relationship. And she's a very sleepy person in general. Gets tired very quickly in day to day activities.
Very particular person. Everything needs to be "just right" to have sex. Not uninhibited that way. Very particular about other things too. Hates being tickled, and other random quirky things like "light touching". She'd rather I touched her with a little bit of pressure, than a feather touch.
Here is something. We only saw each other about once a week in the relationship, and since we started having sex, we only had sex probably about 15-20 TOTAL. That was probably over 4 months.
She would NEVER have sex or fool around seriously on her period.
Here is what I know:
She knew I was a virgin. There was no way for me to keep that a secret since we have mutual friends.
We did everything under the sun except sex for about 3 months. She told me she would not sleep with me until she got tested for STDs. (She's been with over 10 guys I think. More than 5 boyfriends, probably about 9-10 BFs, and some ONSes.) I believe she truly did this to protect me.
A couple of weeks after having sex, she went on the pill for me. This is important, because she has NEVER gone on the pill for any guy but me. I'm the first guy that she's ever had sex with without a condom.
Also, I have ALWAYS been able to give her an orgasm during **** licking. I know this because her vaginal wall quivers, and she vocally orgasms.
Also, since she has NEVER orgasmed with me having sex with her, I'm almost 100% sure that she's not faking me. I told her if she ever faked me, I would dump her right away (she has vaginal quivering, so it's obvious when she does).
So around the end of March she is moving her stuff from one apartment to her new apartment, and she's having a HORRIBLE time with the movers. (It's like 10pm and they were supposed to come at 2pm.)
When the whole ordeal is over...She's done talking to me on the phone, she says with intonation "I love you" on the phone. (On the phone? wtf?) But then, I hesistantly reciprocate (I did love her), and before I'm even done reciprocating, she takes it back by saying "Oh my gosh! I just got done talking to my mom, and I was just thinkg about that conversation when I said that! Let's just forget that that every happened! See you later hun! Bye."
So I'm like...uhhh...what? Anyway. So I NEVER bring this subject up again. It has not come up to this day. She never brought it up again. Perhaps this was the turning point? Idk...
Anyway, so we come to my birthday, which is a thursday, and we have a great time. We talk for a while, then we have a very great moment dancing in the lounge part of St. Sulpice (it's a bar) which is luckily empty except for the bartender. hehe, straight from a romantic comedy). She's looking dolls eyes at me, and I'm looking back at her.
But the thing is, when we get to her place, she turns me down for sex! On my birthday! WTF? I did get angry at her, but not NEARLY as angry as I should have. She knew I was mad, but two days later I acted like nothing was wrong.
So, now it's the begining of June and I just got donw with an Organic Chemistry summer course. It's a 60 hour a week class if you want to get an A. During that time, we see each other sparingly, and TBH, I didn't really make an effort to have interesting dates. (remember we still see each other only about once a week, sometimes two.) Most of the time we just go to dinner all the time. From this time and before, we had talked already about her not putting out. And had come to a decision that basically we would have sex before the date sometimes, and sporadically at other times.
June is here, and I'm taking an Easy Intro to Jazz class, and we see each other once a week again. I guess this iis probably when the Interest level really tanked, but I didn't notice. Basically, life was going on as usual, and nothing interesting was happening, except for the still lacking of sex often. But to me, it seemed like her ineterest level was the same as it always had been...The one intresting thing here, is that during this time, she said to me,
"Babe. I know you know I've been with a good number of guys, but I want you to KNOW that I will never ever cheat on you. I don't just want you to believe it. I want you to KNOW it."
July comes by, and now I'm in Orgainc Chem. 2. Again, it's a 60 hour a week class, and I'm doing it more than full time. I think we went out 2 times during this time, as a DATE. The reason for that, is that her mother came for the last two weeks of july. She offered me a booty call on a thursday, the day before her mom comes to visit (prolly July 19th or something). We probably havne't had sex in about 10-12 days. (We never have sex again..after this)
I turned down this booty call because I had a huge exam the next day. And when she comes over for a booty call it would probably take up 3 hours of my time.
Her mom comes on friday, and basically, we never have sex again until she breaks up with me.
I hung out with her mom and her twice, and her mom loved me. We had a great time. She's still showing me affection. Kissing me regularly, and keeping her arm around me. I came over to her house when her mom was there, and she basically ran up to me (july 20 or so) (when her mom couldnt' see, gave me a great big hug and said "I really miss you"), buried her head in my shoulder. Here's the thing. Her mom was taking her to Cuba for a week. They leave on July 20th, and go to Cuba for one week. This was perfect timing for me, since I was smack in the middle of finals.
She gets back from Cuba and I go out to brunch with her and her mom, and her friend (whose my friend kinda). We have a great time. She shows me all her pictures, including a picture of her with her arm around her tour guide (A really HOT and really BUILT guy. A model basically). There is also a pic of her mom with the same pose with the tour guide. This is Saturday July 30th.
So we have lunch, and it's great.
She gives me a wallet with my name embroidered on it, and the year, and is like "This is just something small but here!" (She bought this the first day that she was in Cuba).
When we leave, Her mom is like "Oh you should come with us out to hang out! Afterall it's my last night in town!" I turned to Ann, and she was like "Can I spend some quality time with my mom? I REALLY don't like the look on her face here.) I turn to her mom, and I'm like "Your daughter wants to spend some quality time with you! You should give that to her!
So I leave. She calls me on monday, and is like, "Let's meet today and have dinner". So I meet her at my house, and she gives me a chess set that ther mom told her to give to me. There's 60$ in the chess set. I accept it. Then she's like, "Oh you don't need money, I'll pay. Don't worry babe, I'll pay" <===****.
We walk down the street get as far as the corner, "Hun, I've been meaning to talk to you about something..."
And the story is continued in the thread where I tell how she broke up with, link is above.
Added twist. I find out later from a reliable source that broke confidentiality, that the "hot tour guide" that she had in Cuba apparently "gave her some new perspective" or something, and that's how she knew to break up with me. All reports I have say she didn't cheat on me (her mom was there), and they didn't hook up. But goddamn, that makes me angry.
I was totally taken by surprise. We didn't have any serious problems, and we weren't arguing regularly at all. It totally took me by surprise.
I would say that I didn't think her interest level could drop that fast in about one week. Just two weeks earlier she's being very affectionate. There was even one point in the relationship she said, "You know what. You are the absolute perfect boyfriend for me."