"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My 45 y.o. friend is insecure about a 24 y.o.'s interest

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This good friend of mine knows this woman who has hinted rather strongly of her interest - "when are going to get together?" She is very studious, and does not seem to be a flaky attention hoar. He is a bit worried about the difference in age. What should I say to help him become more secure?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MatureDJ said:
This good friend of mine knows this woman who has hinted rather strongly of her interest - "when are going to get together?" She is very studious, and does not seem to be a flaky attention hoar. He is a bit worried about the difference in age. What should I say to help him become more secure?

Ha ! So you are asking "for a friend " ??
Oh BTW - you have not included your age in your profile .
 

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WTF is wrong with men these days......
 

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I mean c'mon, a 45 yr old WORRIED about a 24 yr old who "likes" him?

What the hell is there to be worried about? Does he think she's gonna give him a heart attack when he sees her naked body on top of him going at it cowgirl style?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yes, this is my friend, and I am generally the only friend that still lives in the area that can lend him assistance in dating advice (another friend that was his main wingman has moved away.)

I think that his problem is that he is used to getting blown off by older women (phone call tag, etc.), which he thinks that he should be more successful with, and hence is less confident with younger women. I tried to tell him that a lot of these older women are just very stuck up, and remain to be stuck up (even though at their age they should be desperate), and that he should concentrate on women aged 25-33 y.o.
 

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MatureDJ said:
I think that his problem is that he is used to getting blown off by older women (phone call tag, etc.), which he thinks that he should be more successful with, and hence is less confident with younger women. I tried to tell him that a lot of these older women are just very stuck up, and remain to be stuck up (even though at their age they should be desperate), and that he should concentrate on women aged 25-33 y.o.
I've said it many times.....the only difference between younger women and older women is the firmness of their breasts and the tightness of their ass.

I hang with women that range in age from 21-37 and I can tell you with 100% certainty that once they hit their mid 20's they aren't going to get any smarter, any better in the sack, and the maturity level doesn't go up as much as you think it might.
 

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STR8UP said:
I've said it many times.....the only difference between younger women and older women is the firmness of their breasts and the tightness of their ass.

I hang with women that range in age from 21-37 and I can tell you with 100% certainty that once they hit their mid 20's they aren't going to get any smarter, any better in the sack, and the maturity level doesn't go up as much as you think it might.
Oh man, I so agree with you.

When you factor in that we're talking about SINGLE women... and things get even more interesting. I had this discussion with a few women the other day, and they agreed with me that the average single 24 year old is as mature as a single 34 year old. Because the really mature ones manage to get attached at some point, while the ones that are nuts ("immature") tend to end up single.

Thus they agreed that I was better off with 23's than 33's.
 
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