"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My 45 y.o. friend is insecure about a 24 y.o.'s interest

MatureDJ

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This good friend of mine knows this woman who has hinted rather strongly of her interest - "when are going to get together?" She is very studious, and does not seem to be a flaky attention hoar. He is a bit worried about the difference in age. What should I say to help him become more secure?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MatureDJ said:
This good friend of mine knows this woman who has hinted rather strongly of her interest - "when are going to get together?" She is very studious, and does not seem to be a flaky attention hoar. He is a bit worried about the difference in age. What should I say to help him become more secure?

Ha ! So you are asking "for a friend " ??
Oh BTW - you have not included your age in your profile .
 

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WTF is wrong with men these days......
 

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I mean c'mon, a 45 yr old WORRIED about a 24 yr old who "likes" him?

What the hell is there to be worried about? Does he think she's gonna give him a heart attack when he sees her naked body on top of him going at it cowgirl style?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yes, this is my friend, and I am generally the only friend that still lives in the area that can lend him assistance in dating advice (another friend that was his main wingman has moved away.)

I think that his problem is that he is used to getting blown off by older women (phone call tag, etc.), which he thinks that he should be more successful with, and hence is less confident with younger women. I tried to tell him that a lot of these older women are just very stuck up, and remain to be stuck up (even though at their age they should be desperate), and that he should concentrate on women aged 25-33 y.o.
 

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MatureDJ said:
I think that his problem is that he is used to getting blown off by older women (phone call tag, etc.), which he thinks that he should be more successful with, and hence is less confident with younger women. I tried to tell him that a lot of these older women are just very stuck up, and remain to be stuck up (even though at their age they should be desperate), and that he should concentrate on women aged 25-33 y.o.
I've said it many times.....the only difference between younger women and older women is the firmness of their breasts and the tightness of their ass.

I hang with women that range in age from 21-37 and I can tell you with 100% certainty that once they hit their mid 20's they aren't going to get any smarter, any better in the sack, and the maturity level doesn't go up as much as you think it might.
 

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STR8UP said:
I've said it many times.....the only difference between younger women and older women is the firmness of their breasts and the tightness of their ass.

I hang with women that range in age from 21-37 and I can tell you with 100% certainty that once they hit their mid 20's they aren't going to get any smarter, any better in the sack, and the maturity level doesn't go up as much as you think it might.
Oh man, I so agree with you.

When you factor in that we're talking about SINGLE women... and things get even more interesting. I had this discussion with a few women the other day, and they agreed with me that the average single 24 year old is as mature as a single 34 year old. Because the really mature ones manage to get attached at some point, while the ones that are nuts ("immature") tend to end up single.

Thus they agreed that I was better off with 23's than 33's.
 
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