"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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my 2 weaknesses: blushing & shaking...

bukowski_merit

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over the last 6-7 years i've been perfecting my abilities with women... i like to think i have good seduction abilites that i've pretty much molded to fit who i am...

but i have 2 glaring weaknesses that i can't seem to fix...

1) I blush/turn red a lot... not even just around women. like if my supervisor is harassing me, or if i'm explaining something sexual to someone (guy or girl). Or even like the other day a girl asked me for directions somewhere and i was giving them to her and she wasn't comprehending... suddenly she goes 'are you getting mad? cuz you're turning red' which of course made me turn even reder... is there anything i can do about this? just put myself in a different mindstate?

2) I shake during the first few moments of intimacy... this one is bigger than the redness... because i've actually had girls who i was building bridges with... then we start to mess around and notices that i'm shaking and gets kindda freaked out... had one girl say something like 'i feel like a creepy old man is touching me' (i was still had her on her back 3 minutes later, but still...) I can't figure it out really... i've been with plenty of women... i'm sure a lot of people get nervous when they're about to have sex with someone new... but i'm guessing they don't shake like i do... it's mostly in my hands...

any advice on these would be helpful as well
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i used to have the shaking problem

the more you do it, the less you shake. you're shaking because of nervousness and excitment of actually touching a woman. happend to me the first few times too. you said your experienced, so maybe it's just excitement. you'll eventually get used to it and then you wont shake anymore.

until then, to minimize the shaking, try calming yourself down a bit. tell yourself it's really not that big a deal, that it's fun. this should make you less hyper
 

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use the blushing to your advantage... when asked why are you blushing just use a c/f response for whatever the situation is.

Q: why are you blushing?
A: I'm not, I'm taking a ****

A: I'm not, that's my horny girl detection

A: I'm not, you're just pale

A: I just read your mind, you nasty thing.

A: Cause women find it irresistable


As for the shaking thing, perhaps you can hide it if you don't use your hands so much, use your lips, cheek, tongue, nose, etc., etc.,
 

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Crank_It_Up said:
Q: why are you blushing?

A: I just read your mind, you nasty thing.
omigod that was funny :crackup:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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good advice from all... and yes i've been with many women (i would say 15 since the 07 new year alone)... but that doesn't seem to matter... whenever i am getting ready to do turn the heat up with a new girl - the anticipation builds in me... and the earthquake in my hand comes to life...

crank it up: especially good help... i've thought about the no hands thing (i'm fine doing kino, massaging, etc. without shaking... it's only once i know i'm getting some or very close to getting it... might have to try it out though... and i'm not big on using 'lines'... but those were pretty slick...
 
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You are thinking too much - meaning that you are internalizing every verbal communication and reflecting on it too heavily!! In other words, you are focusing too much on yourself!!! CHILL!!!!!
 
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