"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Must of been the liquor. I go a bit wild

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So I get over to my friends place this past Friday. On the way we hit the liquor store, I grab me a 6pk of Fat Tire and they grab some after shock and other stuff that I did not plan on drinking. Got to his place and its him, his girl friend, his sister, her boyfriend, myself and their niece. I head out side with a beer and my guitar and amp and start messing around. My friend grills up some grub and the party gets started.

I should make it clear that I like my friends sister (they don't know that at least to the best of my knowlage) but she has been with an ass hole for a long time. An abusive SOB and she finally got her head on strait and kicked his ass to the curb and got a new man, who is nicer. Got to admit the dude is pretty cool. So we all where drinking, chatting, I am messing around with my guitar and my friend and his girlfriend where sitting by them selfs in their own little world, so its me chatting with his sister her boyfriend and the neice. Mostly joke telling and passing the bottle. Friendly stuff. Normaly this type of activity I would find an excuse to get out, but not tonight. I stayed. Why? Because I needed to and besides everyone was drinking and there was no ride home. I needed to stay because I don't hang out with my friends that often. I needed to socialize better. And dispite the fact that I liked his sister, I needed to feel more comfortable talking to women that I like. The Liquor helped with this. What also helped was the fact that I did not have to worry about. The sisters boyfriend was right there. So I was assured nothing was going to happen. I was free to chat and get comfortable and talk to the girl who I liked. It was good practice. But I also had to be careful since the boyfriend was there.

I treated my friends sister as that... an old friend. Jokes, chatting and a bit of teasing...

After a beer and a couple swigs of hard liquor and some playing, I went inside to use the can and since I was a bit thirsty, I grabbed some water and came back out. The sister was like "what the hell!? Water!? You best get another beer, I am on my third!" Or something to that tune. I shot back a quick sarcastic remark then held the glass of water over her head and act like I was going to dump it on her. She told me, "You better not, I will kick your ass" I smiled and said, "You will do what?" She said she was going to kick my ass. So I paused... then dropped a few drops of water on her.

It probably was a good thing she was too drunk to stand up and actualy do it...because I wanted her to get up and kick my ass...A good excuse to get into a wrestling match. :D

It would have been a big problem if she actualy did, since her boyfriend was there, or perhaps it would have been cool, since we have known each other for over 10 years. It would have been friendly wrestling.

She sat back down and we all drank and chatted and BSed some more. I went and grabbed another beer, one the boyfriend bought and drank it. He said, he did not mind sharing, and if you know me well enough you just sat your self up with a comment like that.. I said, "hmmm... thats interesting...." before he said, "my beer" I replied back, "just checking"

More BS and fun. Things wound down about 130 in the morning.

So, nothing really happen. I did go a bit wild, at least by my standards. I went out of my comfort zone (and perhaps stepped on a line I probably should not have). But before I would have never teased this woman like this. She has teased me a bit and all I could do was say, "Okay" or something stupid. I have chatted with his sister alone a few times, but have been too nervous to look at her while talking. There is one time when I was left alone with her in her room sitting on her bed where I was so friggin nervous I could not say much. I was standing up, she told me I could sit down and the only place to sit was her bed or floor.

So... I feel as if I am getting a little bit better. But I wonder if it was the liquor helping out. Probably.

I guess this was a BFD post, but eh... I posted anyway :rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Yes, the alcohol did play a part in giving you liquid courage. It puts you in a mind state where you don't think about your actions but, just do it. If you can get in that mind set when your sober. It might help improve your game in approaching and talking with women.
 

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okay... so you made a post about making a couple of remarks while drunk to a woman who was there with her BF....NOthing happened?
 

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Whoah, that's like the night I mixed a little real coffee in with the decaf!!:rockon:
 

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Phyzzle said:
Whoah, that's like the night I mixed a little real coffee in with the decaf!!:rockon:
haha! :crackup:

btw, I'm glad you had fun dude.

"I went out of my comfort zone" :up: that's the fastest way you can grow as a person.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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As I said, a BFD post :)

At least it was not one of these, this-chick-just-grabbed-my-crank-so-you-think-she-likes-me? post
 
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