"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think we can agree that listening to music influences our character a bit. What we listen to is usually reflected by who we are, what our personality is like, etc. While we might know it or not, we'll change bit by bit by the lyrics.

So I'll make this simple: stop listening to love songs. I've just recently heard "Sorry I'll take the Blame" by Akon; it must be the most wussiest song I've ever listened to. He takes the blame for everything his girl has done that he hasn't done. What's going to happen when you're constantly blowing that crap in your ears?

Listening to love songs will turn you into a needy wuss, and it might be the single most reason why there are still betas running around in this world aside from the introduction of Romeo and Juliet, which IMO brew the era of wusses. Overtime when you listen to enough of it, you'll feel like something is missing within you, which creates that neediness.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good advice, but most music right now is ****ty like that. Over here, the TV music stations suck baaaad, they play Fallout Boy and the next *****cat dolls half the day :rolleyes: It's getting harder and harder to find some GOOD music. (aka Led Zeppelin and the guys from the era ;))
 

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no offense or nothin, but thats probbaly the dumbest crap ive heard in my entire life....listenin to types of music wont make you "less of a man"...its music... and you say people should listen to zeppelin...have you ever listenend to their lyrics...there ALL about love.
 

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I believe there is a grain of truth in this idea. But I think it would only effect you after listening to many sappy songs in a row for a decent length of time, and even then, you'd only have that mellow, needy feeling for an hour at the most. And it will also vary from person to person.

Real point of thread: Don't listen to sappy love songs right before going out sarging or something. Otherwise, your musical tastes are yours to decide.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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War Against Betaism

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SnowBlind77 said:
no offense or nothin, but thats probbaly the dumbest crap ive heard in my entire life....listenin to types of music wont make you "less of a man"...its music... and you say people should listen to zeppelin...have you ever listenend to their lyrics...there ALL about love.
It's a proven study. Have you ever seen an emo person before emo music started erupting?

Ace of Flames said:
I believe there is a grain of truth in this idea. But I think it would only effect you after listening to many sappy songs in a row for a decent length of time, and even then, you'd only have that mellow, needy feeling for an hour at the most. And it will also vary from person to person.

Real point of thread: Don't listen to sappy love songs right before going out sarging or something. Otherwise, your musical tastes are yours to decide.
Great point there. It's actually a study my friend was doing for his senior project on how music influences us, and love songs usually fall into the pop and R&B category. No one listens to pop anymore, and if you're into R&B, you most likely are into rap, and all they talk about is getting hoes and being rich. If you're not listening to it in succession you'll see hardly any effects.
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
no offense or nothin, but thats probbaly the dumbest crap ive heard in my entire life....listenin to types of music wont make you "less of a man"...its music... and you say people should listen to zeppelin...have you ever listenend to their lyrics...there ALL about love.


Oh really?

You ever wondered what an epic movie would be like without music?


Go watch Transformers or 300 or something and imagine it without any music. All those epic battle scenes, moments when the bad guys have their speech that they're going to win, etc.

Music makes up 70% of a movies mood. You can watch a clip of people getting shot and have a violin playing in the background. Or you could imagine the same clip but this time with wacky saxophones playing ragtime. Or Metallica could be playing. They all make you feel differently about what's going on. One makes you sad, one makes you laugh, one makes you feel like dominating everything.


I have a challenge for you. I ask you to listen only, ONLY, to break up songs for an entire month (that's nothing considering some people listen to them for YEARS).

This tip is awesome. I can vouch for this first hand. I didn't even notice how I used to listen to so many sad/break-up songs up until a year ago. I wasn't even crazy about the songs, it's just that I had this...ritual of feeling bad for myself (which I never used to do before I started dating). And I did this via sad music that depicted a scene of "poor me, I hope it gets better one day...". Thank God I don't do that anymore. Thank God I got over it. Because since then I've become a much more outgoing person. Cheers to the OP!
 

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Very true. Music effects our mood tremendously. Jon55 knows his ****. I try not to listen to sappy stuff too much. When I get depressed I usually put on some rap music or hip-hop, that usually boosts my ego a bit.
 

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On a side note. Anybody have any song recommendations that boost your mood/give off a DJ vibe?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this is like....ridiculous...i listen to all kinds of metal and "emo music"...but i dotn dress like them and cut my wrists and cry about life, its just a music style i like, and the same goes for everyone i know. teenaged kids in highschool dress all emo because they idolize the rockstars and want to be like them....i imagine all you guys are in or around your 20s.....youre saying if you start listening to gangsta rap your gonna sport the gear, get a grill and start talkin gangsta? you think listening to like...hair metal ballads is going to make you a ***** around chicks? its going to make you worse at getting girls than you already are? its music. like god damnit....how is that real advice on anything...and why doesnt anyone else see this.

"Listening to love songs will turn you into a needy wuss, and it might be the single most reason why there are still betas running around in this world"

gimme a break.
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
no offense or nothin, but thats probbaly the dumbest crap ive heard in my entire life....listenin to types of music wont make you "less of a man"...its music... and you say people should listen to zeppelin...have you ever listenend to their lyrics...there ALL about love.
Theres a reason why emo kids are emo. and why Gangsters listen to rap.

There are people who live their music, and ther eare others like myself, who listen to everything purely for enjoyment
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
this is like....ridiculous...i listen to all kinds of metal and "emo music"...but i dotn dress like them and cut my wrists and cry about life, its just a music style i like, and the same goes for everyone i know. teenaged kids in highschool dress all emo because they idolize the rockstars and want to be like them....i imagine all you guys are in or around your 20s.....youre saying if you start listening to gangsta rap your gonna sport the gear, get a grill and start talkin gangsta? you think listening to like...hair metal ballads is going to make you a ***** around chicks? its going to make you worse at getting girls than you already are? its music. like god damnit....how is that real advice on anything...and why doesnt anyone else see this.

"Listening to love songs will turn you into a needy wuss, and it might be the single most reason why there are still betas running around in this world"

gimme a break.
If you want to stay ignorant the rest of your life, you can not take this advice.
 

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billy jean is not my lover
she just a girl who claims that i am the one
BUT the kid is not my son , she says im am the one but the kid is not my son

haha sorry got the ipod going, as for todays music...............

IT BLOWS thats why I have my Ipod. And R&B isn't that bad you have to find the select few that work. I only listen to certain kinds of music throughout the day. When I work out its usually Alternative or Rock. Then I'll put DJ Tiesto on for cardio. The only time I listen to R&B is when I'm out with a female. ESPECIALLY AKON. I only have a couple of his songs but HB's love that sh*t.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"On a side note. Anybody have any song recommendations that boost your mood/give off a DJ vibe?"

Weapon by Matthew Good Band
Oblivion by 30 Seconds To Mars.
 

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King of My World - Saliva
Adrenaline - Gavin Rossdale
Alive - P.O.D
My Way - Limp Bizkit
*Superman - Eminem*
Clocks - U2
Blow Me Away - Breaking Benjamin
99 Problems - Jay Z
Away - Mercy Drive
Only God Can Judge Me - 2pac

*The Number 1 DJ song
 

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Its all about UK Garage!!! Gets you in the mood to game some b!tches ;) and to dance. I can suggest a few tracks if anyone wants to sample it.
 
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