"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Moving to another state-starting over

Immaculate

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Well I'm, 27 yrs old right now and I've been living in bum**** Virginia my whole life. I'm so sick of it.

I've decided to sell my house and buy another place in West Palm Beach, Fl. My sister is a real estate broker so she can help me do this. My only porblem is moving all the big stuff but I'll get a moving company. Luckily 2 years ago I bought a townhouse here in bum**** VA and now the price had doubled so when I sell it I will make over 150,000 grand! I don't mean to brag.. but this will allow me to buy another place and start over.

I won't know anybody at all but I need a change in my life. West Palm Beach.. what better place to be?

Anybody gone through this before?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Pilot

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I've done it several times now, but that's just the way it is in the military. Try and meet new friends (male) as soon as possible through your hobbies. Keep busy, and just start dating around. If you don't have a date planned every weekend theres something wrong, cause your going to be bored out of your mind if you don't. Have the chicks show you the cool places in town. It sucks initially (leaving friends) but after awhile it gets better. Good luck to ya.
 

Bible_Belt

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150K is not a lot for WPB, plus there are more hurricanes these days- if I were you, I'd probably rent. There is no high ground, so a second-story apt would be the least flood-prone. Plus, you can move if you don't like your neighbors. South FL is very nice in some places and very not nice in others.

Things to learn:
Spanish
Salsa Dancing
How to not get mugged/carjacked
Hurricane preparedness
 

chili kat

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I'm sure your sister knows the ins and outs of buying in Florida, but having recent construction experience down there myself I'll say you should definately consider the material the house was built with.

Real estate down there is hot right now, there is a large preference for quantity over quality in new construction and selling prices haven't been reflecting that. Anything built with particle board vs. real plywood has more than likely been slapped together ASAP to turn a profit.

A lot of people are flipping houses down there right now and 150K is a good chunk to start with in a lot of areas.
 

speedo_meme

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what are you running away from immaculate?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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speedo_meme

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LOL......thanks for doing the work for me wyldfire :crackup:
 

penkitten

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i have moved into another state and started over again and it worked out great for me.
other people i know have tried it and they end up coming home because they either missed it or got tired of not knowing the area or not making enough friends or just plain old not making enough cash to support themselves in the new area.

west palm is expensive to live in compared to alot of places. look things up online and see that you can afford them.

issues you run away from, will never stray too far behind.(they will follow you) they have to get resolved no matter where you go.
 

Mr. Mystery II

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Wow, I take Farragut North home from work, I walk by Planned Parenthood every day...

A 150k net isn't that great in 2 year in NOVA, but not too bad either. You prolly made 100k in the past year alone right?

Sounds like you already know better than to rent, but as nice as it is down there, Hurricanes are a common occurance. From what I've heard though, FL is where its at! My friends ex has been beggin me to come visit her down there :rolleyes: I would but I can't afford that luxury, lol...

As far as moving, I hope its not because of the abortion, but I can relate to wanting a change of scenery, as much as I love DC, I'd like to see some other places as well, and later on down the road I will.

Whatever you choose to do, good luck...

Mr. Mystery
 
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