Moving out of ex's house tomorrow, need some advice.

[cactus3178]

Oh, man. All my stuff is pretty much in boxes and I'm moving from my ex's house into my own tomorrow. I don't know why, but the whole thing feels weird to me. You get so used to one way of doing things....

Today I realized I'm 26 years old and I've never really lived on my own before. I've had my own apartments/houses/etc since I was 17, but I've always shared them with a girlfriend. Truth be told, I've never really been NOT in a relationship since I was 13. I've had a few months off in between, but it always seems like I end up with another girl soon after.

A relationship should enhance your life, not define it. Hard lesson for me, evidently.

Anyhow, let me cut to the chase; I'm not going to be at ease with this situation unless I say my final peace to her. I don't really want to walk out the door telling her to f*ck off....those of you who have been in a similar situation, what did you say/do as a 'last goodbye' if you will?

I don't want to turn this into a dramatic event, but I do think something should be said.

I'm rambling, and not in a very good place mentally right now. Honestly, I try to take it like a man, but inside, it does hurt to leave. I hope this makes sense to somebody. Feel free to post any ideas or advice.

 

[Buck Naked]

LIFT WITH YOUR LEGS!!!

 

[KiInCollege]

You're going to feel like maybe you're making a mistake and start thinking about what-ifs. But, if you know you can do better and that you deserve it, this period of regret will be brief.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Say nothing!!!!! Men don't think about goodbyes - women do!!!! Youi'lll look like a chump if you try to say something!! You are leaving for a reason - leave it at that!!!

 

[Hollowpoint]

Originally posted by Buck Naked
LIFT WITH YOUR LEGS!!!

LOL!

 

[cactus3178]

Originally posted by Buck Naked
LIFT WITH YOUR LEGS!!!

Lmao. Thanks for the reminder, bro.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by KiInCollege
You're going to feel like maybe you're making a mistake and start thinking about what-ifs. But, if you know you can do better and that you deserve it, this period of regret will be brief.

I agree. I would also say, find someone to rent a room in your apartment. Or to move in with some other people. I have always found it sucks to live by yourself, just makes u lonely and sad. I always like life around me, even if I am not socialling with them. Especially at a time like this u need people around, hopefully u have good friends to support u! Breaking up from a LTR is serious business (oh and once again I am talking about a REAL LTR, someone who u have spent a long time with, not these 2 month LTR u see on this board)! Hurts bad for a while, but in the end u are better and feel stronger for it. Plus its always good to get out amongst the game again!!

Have fun, and take the new ladies easy!

From what I remember of your girl, she wouldnt commit? Man, u r better off without her, dont u wonder sometimes why u even put yourself through all the pain with her? Us humans are real wierd beings!

 

[Supaman]

Been there

I've been in the same situation, but what I did.....was I sat down in my new place by myself and just kind of enjoyed the silence and being alone and then made a list of everything I would no longer accept in my life....from girls and everything else and decided at that moment......that I didn't need a girl for now....that I need to build msyelf into the best "man" I could be. I refined my gym workouts, worked overtime as much as possible, started 2 businesses, and anytime I felt even the list been lonely, I would turn on classical music and ask myself how I would act if I was making more than 100k/year. If everything keeps going as planned I will be making over 100k next year and then I will concentrate on girls. I just check back here every now and then b/c I think about the girl that brought me here when I'm not making money or in the gym. But my attitude has completely changed. Just wanted to let you know what worked for me.

 

[Kidquick]

I wouldn't turn the goodbye into anything dramatic - just play it like the smooth motherfvcka you know you are: Look her in the eye, shake her hand, tell her you wish her luck in her future endeavors, and hightail it outta there and not look back.