"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wifehunter

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The negativity from both sides, is getting to me. On top of that, I already struggle with my own depression. So, it seems like the perfect storm.

Maybe someone could point me to a more positive forum. Maybe it's a longshot, idk.

Take care.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Take a long brake, I did this and it works wonders. Being on this forum (or any forum) where differing opinions are thrown all over the place is stressful. You end up wearing yourself down trying to process it all, it's too much.

To find your own mind you gotta get away from everyone else's. This is your responsibility to control and you do indeed have full control of this. Move in the direction that feels better, if that's away from this forum then don't continue torturing yourself by being here.

It's the simplest thing you can do to feel better. Go away from what drags you down and go towards what lifts you up.
 

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yep, break time... see you on the other side!!!

I have a feeling, my single days are numbered. It seems like my Miss stalker/sweetie, is trying to "feel me out" through my friends. With that in mind, I'm definitely going to take a look at married redpill, THANKS!!!
 

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Try the redpill reddit or married redpill. I read these and find them useful.

We should try to encourage and lift each other up on this fourum. I am tired of the negativity too.
People in general will never agree with everyone. The members on this forum is a very diverse mix of men (and a few women). I would say it's not that bad considering the circumstances. Complete harmony and peace won't happen on a discussion forum, if that happened there would be nothing to discuss and the forum would be dead. I can't imagine we being a bunch of guys validating each other, that would even be ironic as the general mindset taught is to not depend on it.

Criticism is also what we do to point out flaws, which is extremely important for self-improvement. You can't learn anything if you don't know what you fvcked up. Often some of us can't handle criticism or don't understand the other point of view. That makes a few conflicts.

So yeah, as I've repeated numerous times, an internet forum is the last place to seek validation. If you can't handle differences, criticism and conflicts then it's not for you.

Good thing is that we're all free to leave if it becomes too much or we don't like it. Just exit the browser, problem solved and you have instant peace.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Different reasons people pass through here. I have a payback mentality in a good way. I've gained significant knowledge here and the guys have helped me with some of my personal sticking points. So I've hung around to help out as much as I could.

I'm an analyst by trade so research is one of my things. That said I think people underestimate the library function of this site. It's a vast store of Self Development and Don Juan information. I've learnt simple routines here for acquiring leads qualifying prospects and closing the sale. I've increased my attractiveness based on the advice here and bookmarked threads on everything from relationship game to how to understand trends in the share market.

But I think it's time for the cat to take a nap. Winter is always a crunch time for me personally and career wise time to eliminate distractions and keep treading out the grain.

I've read a fair few of your posts and you've made a solid contribution to the community. Especially given your personal circumstances. Go in peace brother.
 

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OK...it is a shame when anyone with something positive to give moves on. I have appreciated your comments, but I acknowledge that there can be a lot of hate, anger and disagreement on here, in ways that are not respectful.
 

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Don't think this post is a negative and discouraging post.

The dating scene is not going to get better; it is only going to get worse with feminism growing and women becoming more and more independent everyday. Add to that there are no standard rules of behavior when it comes to dating. Add to that, the so-called "game" played by opposite sexes. The concept of "game" in dating is so confusing that you will never find a positive forum on dating on the internet.

Taking a break will not solve your problem because you are just postponing your efforts to try to find a solution to your problem. Are the issues you are now facing going to magically disappear when you get back to dating scene after the break?

If you want to do it, just continue doing it. We are all battling it out as well. Or just give up, if you can live without it. It's ok.

On a related note, if you have spent 6 months on a dating website or forum, you are an expert on the subject-matter. You really don't need to read all these posts unless you want to pass time. You have the "theoretical" knowledge already, you just need to put yourself out and gain the "practical" knowledge.
 
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