moving in with a girl

[dk1990S111]

So my brother (22) is moving in with his girlfriend that he has been with for a month. He was looking to move out of our parents house for a while before he met her and she isnt on the rental paperwork luckily for him but she will be calling that her primary residence. Anyways, I tried to talk him out of letting her stay there but he has his own ideas.

Oh well. Anyways, I was thinking earlier and wanted to see what you guys think. How long is a good amount of time of being with a chick exclusively before you let her move in with you? With my ex I think we moved in together after 8-10 months. That lasted about 3 years till the sh!t hit the fan haha which brings me to my second question.

How do you keep your girl on her toes while living with her? You have to come home to her every night. I mean I guess you should be past that stage of having to "game" her once you decide to live with her but as I found out with my ex, you never want them to get too comfortable to where they take you for granted.

 

[Roni_88]

A month ?.. that doesnt sound good at all..its like moving in with a stranger.. your brother will learn from this.

 

[Skyline]

Once you move in with your girlfriend that automatically makes the relationship a long term in my eyes, regardless if you wanted it to be a short term. I would say a year and a half to 2 years is a good amount of time to move in together. Like with any relationship, your frame is everything. The game never really ends once you participate.

 

[dk1990S111]

A month ?.. that doesnt sound good at all..its like moving in with a stranger.. your brother will learn from this.

That's what I tried to tell him. Hell, I can't even think of her name off the top of my head right now, never met her.

 

[El Payaso]

I despise cohabitation. You don't have your own place to be when disagreements happen. Familiarity breeds contempt.

 

[dutchmaster]

It might lead you to suicide

 

[YawataNoKami]

Don't Marry, Don't Cohabitate, Don't Impregnate. More importantly, don't associate your happiness, well-being or self-esteem with having a woman in your life. We hew closely to the "AWALT" perspective, because all women have the power to destroy a man's reputation with a word (e.g. "rape" or "afraid" or "creepy").

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

How long is a good amount of time of being with a chick exclusively before you let her move in with you?

Answer: longer than a month. I tried it. Twice. Neither time ended well.

How do you keep your girl on her toes while living with her?

Answer: carry on leading your own life. And encourage her to do the same. Life can get very mundane very quickly if you are all in each other's pockets every night. Go out with her, go out with your mates, play sports, take up new hobbies, blah blah blah. You know the drill. Maintaining independence is key. If either feels trapped by the situation, that's when trouble starts.

Familiarity breeds contempt.