Moving from DJ to LTR

[Tomatoes]

Ok. This is something i am finding uncomfortable lately. The people I am wanting to reply to this thread are the more experianced DJs and ones in LTR. I wanna see if im in the same boat here.


Ok so Tomatoes is off the market! I am now going out with a stunning cute HB9. Shes also amazing in bed....best i have ever had (thats saying alot) hence me snapping up in a LTR when she hinted all about it. Ofc i aint lost the Meta frame.

Anyways. Im only in my 3rd week of being exclusive. Im still finding it hard not to naturally pick up girls. I have been single so long I am naturally just still chatting up girls. I have turned down 1 number offered by a girl and a 2 set offered me to go out with them. Once again im turning it down. Had a girl chatting me up down the local last night too. My girl is on holiday at the sec so its not a problem but im a loyal guy.

Im not looking to pull girls as im v happy with my new gf. Im just stuck in the routine of chatting girls up. Its harmless because im not acting on it but I was wondering if any of my fellow DJs in LTR do this.

Think its just pure habit...

 

[DJsparky]

Turn those girls into friends, you can use this to your advantage. The more girls that want you, makes you more of the prize to your girlfriend, just make sure you dont cross the line of cheating and just be a natural flirt.

 

[Faded Image]

I'm in a LTR, but I still flirt and might sneak and see other girls from time to time but that's about it.

Now that you have a girl, you should take full advantage of the other girls throwing themselves at you. Put them on the and if your starter messes up you'll have a decent line up to mantain the heat.

You're happy as h*ll right now but when some other guy starts bagging her head with game and she becomes distant, that happiness goes right out the window and what's left is the "My girlfriend seems distant" post.

In other words, just do you. If you can't seem to stop flirting with other girls then why fight temptation; remain single.

 

[Jariel]

I've been through the same thing. I've been exclusive with my girlfriend for about 4 months, but when we first started dating I was still encouraging other women and kissed two of my female friends (one of whom turned obsessive on me). I had a LOT of doubts about entering into a relationship simply because I was enjoying all the female attention.

I'm still getting lots of women hitting on me and I even have my ex- (who dumped me last year) pursuing me again and getting quite desperate, which is a huge ego boost. I admit, there are times when I am tempted to fool around just because I can, but then I weigh up what I have to lose. I am happy with my girlfriend, she idolizes me, I love her company, the sex is the best I've had too and she's never given me any problems, and that's not something I would jeopardise for a meaningless fling.

Until recently I would do things that I would not tolerate from my GF, like playfighting and putting my arms around female friends, letting them sit on my lap and grind on me when dancing etc. However, a lot of my behaviour was down to insecurity. I wanted to keep my options open and keep my "skills" on form in case my relationship fell through. But as I'm growing more secure in my relationship, I'm finding less need to flirt and lead on other women. Afterall, there's nothing they can offer me that my girlfriend doesn't already offer, except purely platonic friendship.

Sure I still get an ego boost from female attention and knowing I'm desirable to the opposite sex. I believe you can be in a perfect LTR and yet it will never stop you from finding other women attractive and appreciating their attention and closeness. It's our nature.

My advice is to continue doing what you're doing...continue flirting and keep your options open until you feel ready to stop. But don't let your girlfriend find out as it could raise a lot of trust issues and give her a reason to cheat on you.

 

[Cloud-uk]

Yeah, I had the same feelings a while ago bad, and I still do to some extent.

I adore my gf and everything is great between us: She's a stunning little blonde, size 8 D-cup, love it. Anyway I keep feeling I should be out macking, or at least getting numbers to keep things fresh. The thing is I don't want to play games with her (keeping her keen by flirting with other girls for example) because I don't see any reason to. I figure that like me you're a natural flirt, and that is enough to keep the gf interested. Tell other girls you have a gf but don't change what you do.