"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Moving from AFC to DJ and never go back

MinusoneAFC

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I have noticed that I was on my way to DJ but fell of the path.
I started dating more girls than I ever would have imagined, in fact I sex with 2 girls in the same day, record for me. Well anyways I got a girlfriend, started to fall back into my AFC's ways and then I broke up with her because I was unhappy. I am no trying to get back to the way I was before I got a girlfriend but I am really struggly.

What can one do from falling back into old AFC traps or patterns and reinforce that the DJ lifestyle is the real truth, the real reality?
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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MindOverMatter

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A lot of people that come around here and learn the DJ game to attract the girl, and then stop. Eventually they revert to AFCs and the relationship fails. If you stop doing the things that attracted her in the first place (djism), the relationship will die, and die quickly.

Basically, the golden rule for me is to never break any rules or change anything that attracted the girl in the first place, no matter how she feels about it, no matter how long I've been dating her, or how much I like her. Everytime I've been a relationship and broken one (or more of the rules), it went downhill. I've learned enough from my mistakes to respect the game and never give it up for anybody.
 

stevera004

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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
A lot of people that come around here and learn the DJ game to attract the girl, and then stop. Eventually they revert to AFCs and the relationship fails. If you stop doing the things that attracted her in the first place (djism), the relationship will die, and die quickly.

Basically, the golden rule for me is to never break any rules or change anything that attracted the girl in the first place, no matter how she feels about it, no matter how long I've been dating her, or how much I like her. Everytime I've been a relationship and broken one (or more of the rules), it went downhill. I've learned enough from my mistakes to respect the game and never give it up for anybody.
You're right, but the original question wasn't exactly this. In a nutshell, original poster is saying that even as a DJ, bedding multiple women etc., he doesn't feel fulfilled. I wish I had an answer to that, I really do, because I'm feeling that right now.

Thanks all,
 

Don_Marko

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It's important to have a connection and actually like the woman you are boning.
Here's a thought... did you know it's possible to do fun and cool stuff with a girl?! Sometimes she can be more spontaneous and cool than your friends.
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