"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Moving from AFC to DJ and never go back

MinusoneAFC

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I have noticed that I was on my way to DJ but fell of the path.
I started dating more girls than I ever would have imagined, in fact I sex with 2 girls in the same day, record for me. Well anyways I got a girlfriend, started to fall back into my AFC's ways and then I broke up with her because I was unhappy. I am no trying to get back to the way I was before I got a girlfriend but I am really struggly.

What can one do from falling back into old AFC traps or patterns and reinforce that the DJ lifestyle is the real truth, the real reality?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MindOverMatter

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A lot of people that come around here and learn the DJ game to attract the girl, and then stop. Eventually they revert to AFCs and the relationship fails. If you stop doing the things that attracted her in the first place (djism), the relationship will die, and die quickly.

Basically, the golden rule for me is to never break any rules or change anything that attracted the girl in the first place, no matter how she feels about it, no matter how long I've been dating her, or how much I like her. Everytime I've been a relationship and broken one (or more of the rules), it went downhill. I've learned enough from my mistakes to respect the game and never give it up for anybody.
 

stevera004

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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
A lot of people that come around here and learn the DJ game to attract the girl, and then stop. Eventually they revert to AFCs and the relationship fails. If you stop doing the things that attracted her in the first place (djism), the relationship will die, and die quickly.

Basically, the golden rule for me is to never break any rules or change anything that attracted the girl in the first place, no matter how she feels about it, no matter how long I've been dating her, or how much I like her. Everytime I've been a relationship and broken one (or more of the rules), it went downhill. I've learned enough from my mistakes to respect the game and never give it up for anybody.
You're right, but the original question wasn't exactly this. In a nutshell, original poster is saying that even as a DJ, bedding multiple women etc., he doesn't feel fulfilled. I wish I had an answer to that, I really do, because I'm feeling that right now.

Thanks all,
 

Don_Marko

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It's important to have a connection and actually like the woman you are boning.
Here's a thought... did you know it's possible to do fun and cool stuff with a girl?! Sometimes she can be more spontaneous and cool than your friends.
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