"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Moving from a town of 10,000 to 1.5 mil

nmartinez12443

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Hello I am 26 years old single male and am about to go to Austin Texas from a small town in north illinois. I am going to be teaching 5th grade in an elementary school. I will know no one until I get to school in August (which is 97% female).

How will life for me change after spending 25 years living at home and in such a small town?

Do you recommend any particular ways of meeting people since I will know no one, but when school starts I will have a ton of women who I can befriend, but probably not date?

Thanks for the help just wanna get some information.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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King Turi

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Well, look at it outside of just you being a teacher.

You'll be in a bigger town - more stuff to do and places to meet people.

Not only this, but I personally feel much more "at east" when I'm NOT in my home town, since you're moving it'll give you a chance to go to this new town and really be yourself, since no one knows you.

I think it'll work out great for you, it would for me anyway, I'd give anything to just move to a new place and start over haha..
 

martinM.

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I've been in similar situations. Sometimes it can be hard to adjust, but i've found it easier to meet people in a bigger city.

People in bigger cities usually have a different mentality overall. It seems like there is more freedom in a large city than a small town where everyone knows you. Anyway, i hear Austin is a pretty cool place to live. Music, nightlife ect.
 

Frog X

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nmartinez12443 said:
I will have a ton of women who I can befriend, but probably not date?
As soon as I read this I was like DING DING DING idea.

Your new. You dont know the fun things to do in the new town...

I think you can pick up where Im going with this.
 

bachelor

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nmartinez12443 said:
Hello I am 26 years old single male and am about to go to Austin Texas from a small town in north illinois. I am going to be teaching 5th grade in an elementary school. I will know no one until I get to school in August (which is 97% female).

How will life for me change after spending 25 years living at home and in such a small town?

Do you recommend any particular ways of meeting people since I will know no one, but when school starts I will have a ton of women who I can befriend, but probably not date?

Thanks for the help just wanna get some information.
You can try by hitting up the bars Austin is known for the nightlife... Since your 26, try taking a class at the university to meet more people. Join the local pua lair, join a gym, talk to people when your out, etc...

Be social! You picked a good place to move to. I've heard nothing but good things about Austin!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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daygameguy

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Be seen as good with the female teachers. Everything else will fall into place.
 

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be careful in larger cities though, you have to be more proactive at making friends

i live in large city of 4mil or so, i could be out all day in the busiest area of the city and not say a word if I chose.

Especially if you are as huge and intimidating as me :p or generally if you are a male.

my mother is also a primary school teacher she says that male teachers are all pvssies at her work (not in those words :p ), my theory; because they hang around women all day they start to become one, so make sure you keep check on that.
 

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bachelor said:
You can try by hitting up the bars Austin is known for the nightlife... Since your 26, try taking a class at the university to meet more people. Join the local pua lair, join a gym, talk to people when your out, etc...

Be social! You picked a good place to move to. I've heard nothing but good things about Austin!
How does one find out where the local "pua lair" is?
 

Rho

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search your city + lair in google

they should have occasional n00b nights for the uninitiated
 

Kevin Feng

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Hey buddy,

I experienced this not too long ago, I moved from a smaller town in Michigan to Los Angeles.

Personally, I loved it, there were just so many more people to meet. It's a great world out there, so many people to meet, so much to accomplish, so many experiences to be had.

Here's the deal though, the city is what you make out of it. Get out and meet people, sign up for different recreational classes, go out to clubs/bars, what have you.

Build your social circle first, once you've done that, start worrying about women. I think a lot of PUAs have issues with this, building a good social group is so much more important in my personal 2 cents. In PUA terms, it gives you social proof and it also
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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