"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Moving from a town of 10,000 to 1.5 mil

nmartinez12443

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Hello I am 26 years old single male and am about to go to Austin Texas from a small town in north illinois. I am going to be teaching 5th grade in an elementary school. I will know no one until I get to school in August (which is 97% female).

How will life for me change after spending 25 years living at home and in such a small town?

Do you recommend any particular ways of meeting people since I will know no one, but when school starts I will have a ton of women who I can befriend, but probably not date?

Thanks for the help just wanna get some information.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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King Turi

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Well, look at it outside of just you being a teacher.

You'll be in a bigger town - more stuff to do and places to meet people.

Not only this, but I personally feel much more "at east" when I'm NOT in my home town, since you're moving it'll give you a chance to go to this new town and really be yourself, since no one knows you.

I think it'll work out great for you, it would for me anyway, I'd give anything to just move to a new place and start over haha..
 

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I've been in similar situations. Sometimes it can be hard to adjust, but i've found it easier to meet people in a bigger city.

People in bigger cities usually have a different mentality overall. It seems like there is more freedom in a large city than a small town where everyone knows you. Anyway, i hear Austin is a pretty cool place to live. Music, nightlife ect.
 

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nmartinez12443 said:
I will have a ton of women who I can befriend, but probably not date?
As soon as I read this I was like DING DING DING idea.

Your new. You dont know the fun things to do in the new town...

I think you can pick up where Im going with this.
 

bachelor

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nmartinez12443 said:
Hello I am 26 years old single male and am about to go to Austin Texas from a small town in north illinois. I am going to be teaching 5th grade in an elementary school. I will know no one until I get to school in August (which is 97% female).

How will life for me change after spending 25 years living at home and in such a small town?

Do you recommend any particular ways of meeting people since I will know no one, but when school starts I will have a ton of women who I can befriend, but probably not date?

Thanks for the help just wanna get some information.
You can try by hitting up the bars Austin is known for the nightlife... Since your 26, try taking a class at the university to meet more people. Join the local pua lair, join a gym, talk to people when your out, etc...

Be social! You picked a good place to move to. I've heard nothing but good things about Austin!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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daygameguy

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Be seen as good with the female teachers. Everything else will fall into place.
 

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be careful in larger cities though, you have to be more proactive at making friends

i live in large city of 4mil or so, i could be out all day in the busiest area of the city and not say a word if I chose.

Especially if you are as huge and intimidating as me :p or generally if you are a male.

my mother is also a primary school teacher she says that male teachers are all pvssies at her work (not in those words :p ), my theory; because they hang around women all day they start to become one, so make sure you keep check on that.
 

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bachelor said:
You can try by hitting up the bars Austin is known for the nightlife... Since your 26, try taking a class at the university to meet more people. Join the local pua lair, join a gym, talk to people when your out, etc...

Be social! You picked a good place to move to. I've heard nothing but good things about Austin!
How does one find out where the local "pua lair" is?
 

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search your city + lair in google

they should have occasional n00b nights for the uninitiated
 

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Hey buddy,

I experienced this not too long ago, I moved from a smaller town in Michigan to Los Angeles.

Personally, I loved it, there were just so many more people to meet. It's a great world out there, so many people to meet, so much to accomplish, so many experiences to be had.

Here's the deal though, the city is what you make out of it. Get out and meet people, sign up for different recreational classes, go out to clubs/bars, what have you.

Build your social circle first, once you've done that, start worrying about women. I think a lot of PUAs have issues with this, building a good social group is so much more important in my personal 2 cents. In PUA terms, it gives you social proof and it also
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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