"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm heading off to school about 2.5 hours away from my hometown. First time I'll be on my own, and I'm excited to get to experience something new, as you can't stay in your hometown for ever.

Now, I want some input here. I am currently spinning about 4 plates, 1 girl I regularly hang out with on the weekends (#1 plate or whatever you want to call her) and the rest I fit in during the week. Those 3 I fit in during the week, I have been slowly drifting away from and they know the deal, they knew that we were just hooking up etc.

However, this #1 plate, knows I'm seeing other women, but I feel as if she is in denile about me leaving, and I've grown to like her, over these past 8 months or so, and she is the only plate I have not grown bored with, surprisingly. I feel like if the timing was different I would be in a LTR with her.

However, being that I am moving 2.5 hours away, I know it isn't going to work out ,as LDRs rarely do.

What do you guys think I should do here . I want to let her off gently, as I really like her, but I don't want to burn any bridges.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is a big test.

Most women lose interest in men who don't live close enough to realistically buy her a house that would get lots of likes from her Facebook friends.

With some women, however you will have a long distance romance. It lasts indefinitely, but you only have about 3 months to keep the current romance alive (that is, when you look back you won't say you broke up), and you have about 5 years to see them again before there is a sea change.

You only know after you try. Can you get them to text back when they haven't seen you in some time?

In 2017, romance means she texts you back red hearts in response to your overtures, with hopes of the coveted sparkly heart symbol.

For these women, a hand-written letter in cursive, a remote date night where you both watch the same movie and order the same pizza, etc, or a Skype date where you have dinner together, can work wonders (i.e., entertain her for 5 days).
 
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You'll be back, at least just to visit. Just tell them you will contact them when you are back in town. If your one girl wants to come visit you when you are away, then let her. But don't put too much effort into traveling back home just to see her.
 
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