"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Moving ahead but avoiding cultural faux paus

Thorninmyside

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I'm stopping into Bangkok next month and have made plans to catch up with a gorgeous 9 I found on Instagram late last year and later Facebook.

She has shown some signs of interest despite the common cards to the chest approach of good Thai girls, has thrown me a possible **** test, and has made a little investment. I'm taking her to a concert she couldn't get tix to, and asked if she could bring a friend who really wanted to see it (I said I only have two tix but can take her friend if she prefers, haha) and then asked me if she could book a hotel for me close to her house so she could take me out for dinner a few times while I'm there. Sure, these could be friendly gestures, but for a virtual stranger? I hope not.

Now, I know there are some that think game is game and the rules apply worldwide, but there are some things in Thailand you just don't do. Holding hands in public, kissing (even at your own wedding!), sleeping with guys you just met... These just don't happen unless you're dating a bar girl (yes, I could go and date a bar girl too...). ****y does not fly there either.

So, given that I have certain restrictions on c&f, kino, direct moves of all kinds pretty much, how do you suggest escalating this and avoiding ljbf? I have about five days to make things happen. Bkk is a regular travel stop for me but this is my first visit as a single guy and I'd like to make this girl a stopover for the future.

Any direct experience with Thai ladies out there? (Of the good upbringing, earning their own salary type).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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El Payaso

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Careful. She might be a lady-boy.
 

Thorninmyside

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Oh, I get those jokes every time I go there. That and happy ending massage jokes. Ladyboys are easy to pick - they put in more effort in their look than "organic" girls.
 

TheException

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Thorninmyside said:
Now, I know there are some that think game is game and the rules apply worldwide, but there are some things in Thailand you just don't do. Holding hands in public, kissing (even at your own wedding!), sleeping with guys you just met... These just don't happen unless you're dating a bar girl (yes, I could go and date a bar girl too...). ****y does not fly there either.

So, given that I have certain restrictions on c&f, kino, direct moves of all kinds pretty much, how do you suggest escalating this and avoiding ljbf? I have about five days to make things happen. Bkk is a regular travel stop for me but this is my first visit as a single guy and I'd like to make this girl a stopover for the future.
So with all of the restrictions and obstacles listed....why would you even deal with this?

If your asking if its possible to get laid, when you cant do any escalating....the answer is no. Sounds like to me she is trying to use you.
 

Thundernuts

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Well you said women over there don't sleep with people they just meet. And also from what you said people look down on PDA but im assuming you wouldn't try anything outside anyways.

You might be able to get some before you leave depending on how much time you spend with her and how much alone time you can get with her but Don't get your hopes up. If all women are as conservative as the impression your post says OP I say don't push to hard the first time you get her alone, if you get her alone at all.

When you go out to have fun remember to have fun do not make her the focus of your evenings she is just along for the ride.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thorninmyside

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TheException said:
So with all of the restrictions and obstacles listed....why would you even deal with this?
Because I think women worldwide deserve a chance with me. :)
 

Thundernuts

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:crackup: HAHAHAHA oh man that was perfect.:crackup:
 
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