"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Movin' to a new high school

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hello, i'm a 17 italian guy and next month i'm goin' back to school. i'm movin' to another high school, due to bad reputation among teachers (my grades weren't bad, but i was hated by many of them, 'cuz of too much messin around durin' lessons and stuff). in the first 2 years of the old school i was really happy and i was one of the popular guys, although i wasn't too good with girls. this year (i've finished my 11th grade; here in italy we go through 13 grades, not 12 as in america) i discovered i was made fun of by many people and i was becomin' quite a loser, although i was hit on by several girls. so, i decided to change school (i hadn't much to lose, neither grades [my ex high school is the hardest in town], nor friends [i have many pals, but i don't mind losin' them]). in new school, i'd like to be much more respected and hit on by girls, how do you suggest that i should act? don't tell me bull****s like bein' myself... in middle school i was myself: ignored and/or bullied. in high school i wasn't myself and it went really better (although, as i already said, i messed everything last year). now, i have a gorgeous girlfriends, but i'd like to have many possibilites. send me advices, thank you

p.s.: this site is great:p

p.p.s.: pardon my english, i'm in a ****in' hurry
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i noticed 12 people read this thread, but none of them answered, so i possibly didn't make myself clear enough in the last post. i'd like to know if it would be better to act noisy, social, outgoing and trouble-maker, or to stay on my own (in the first 2 weeks, at least), don't introduce myself and never talk. thank you
 

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Introduce yourself to lots of people. Act social, with a ****y-funny attitude. Read the bible.
 

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well, that's what i use to act (it comes to me naturally to act **** and funny), but that's what has led me to bein' considered a moron who just tries to get all the ladies... i mean, there are 4 kinds of people i interact with:

1. the ones that don't know me: they think i'm a stupid guy, popular, but really stupid

2. the ones who know me: they think i've got a hell of personality, they love me. girls are crazy for me and guys want to hang out with me.

3. girls i know really well (mostly classmates): some want to make out with me and some want to be friends (i don't mind, i don't really like these last ones).

4. guys who know me well: they make fun of me, bullyin' me and stuff.

for example, i knew some guys who were quite nice to me (they were acquaintences, not real friends). when i had a school trip with them, they started bullyin' me and tryin' to make me look a clown.

why does this happen?!?!
 

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first you need to write down your priorities. the things that are most important to you at the top and the lesser ones at the bottom. then try to start thinking how can you reach those goals. and don't stop working at them because one will lead to another.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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think of the root of what you are trying to do, you are trying to become popular, now what is begin popular, it is being respected, and people looking up to you and admiring you and following you around as if you are all that, if you ar ea DJ then your should be able to be popular with guys aswell, as confidence will gina peoples respect. C&F (this is the most powerfull tool) will make you stand out as fun. you must look good, as guys like guys with high status as they can tap in to it, and lookign good always helps. Do not seme deseprate, do not try to be popular, just do it, and you will see it happen when you do not give a dam anymore, rtaher then trying to be there freinds, make them try to be your freinds.

to sum that up, be confident, look smart, use C&F (and have intresintg things to say) and do not try hard to be popular because that is liek chasing a girl, it will not make her liek you, same thing goes here.

hope iv been a help
 
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