"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Movies got canceled via text..

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Alright, as the title suggests I just got a text saying the following:

Hey i know this is last minute but i have 2 cover someones shift so i am not going to go. I will so make it up to you k just name it k sorry

That's exactly how she typed it out, not too good on the english if you couldn't tell. But yeah, we made plans yesterday for today and I got this, 2 hours before I was going to pick her up. So how should I proceed? How would you guys proceed? I have not texted her back yet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd ignore it, and not reply to her. Then go to the movies with a friend or another girl.
 

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Espi said:
Reply: "You can make it up by having sex with me."

I appreciate the response...though I'm sure that kind of a text would scare her away from me, lol.
 

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First of all give a simple reply back so she knows you're not bothered either way. Let her indirectly know you have a life besides her.


She might have been telling the truth. Its up to her now to prove herself to you. It's no big deal just go with the flow. Give her the benefit of the doubt but its her last chance. Don't let her mess you around.
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I have come to know that most times when girls are dishonest about cancelling plans with you. They text you instead of calling you to tell you so. If you were important to her she wouldn't have picked up those hours when she already made plans with you.
 

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slaog said:
First of all give a simple reply back so she knows you're not bothered either way. Let her indirectly know you have a life besides her.


She might have been telling the truth. Its up to her now to prove herself to you. It's no big deal just go with the flow. Give her the benefit of the doubt but its her last chance. Don't let her mess you around.
I agree, you must show you're unaffected by it. Text her back something like "thats ok, I have some things to take care of anyways so its cool" and dont mention anything about a next meeting. then try again in a few days.
 

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Reply: Oh that's a shame. Give me a call when your busier.

Then ignore and spin more plates.

;)
 

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jafyk said:
I have come to know that most times when girls are dishonest about cancelling plans with you. They text you instead of calling you to tell you so. If you were important to her she wouldn't have picked up those hours when she already made plans with you.
stop assumings things, just becuase she texted him & didn't call doesn't mean a thing. Some people (esp young people) actually prefer texting to calling.

To the OP, just say something like 'ok cool, you can make it up to me some other time' but whatever you do just play it cool. Don't show any frustration or anything like that.
 

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When women cancel like that, they are either genuinely double booked, or they are taking the first backstep in disconnecting from you.
The Two Strikes Rule allows her two cancellations, so if I were you I would just reply," No worries." and then wait for her to contact you again with a decent counter offer.
If she does not make a convincing attempt to make it up OR she cancels a second time, then you know what you have to do .
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thanks a lot guys for all the helpful insight, I've played it cool and told her to call me tonight, she was making suggestions to go another day so that looks like a good sign. Overall this is a girl I've actually known for going on 2 years now, though just recently got back to talking with her.
 
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