"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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RagingBalls

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Any suggestions on movies, films worth watching that isn't about AFC's but glorifies the true essence of a DJ. Thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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American Psycho.
Like the title implies, it's about a psyho/sociopath with narcissistic tendencies who does all he can to look the best and be the best. I love the movie, and the book is even better.

Fight Club.
obvious choice.

the first two seasons of the tv show Dexter is a good choice in my opinion.
 

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Not a lot of movies are, in and of themselves, worthy of study, but plenty of characters (at least in certain situations) are worthy of study.

Take Tom Cruise's character in the recent Jack Reacher movie. While not about picking up girls, it's a great study in frame control. He controls pretty much every conversation he's in, regardless of what happens.

Or a few choice scenes of Jimmy The Saint in "Things To Do In Denver When You're Dead," when he first picks up and seduces his girl.

There was a GREAT scene in "The Departed" when Matt Damon's character was busting on his police appointed therapist during their first date.

Then there's the absolute classic from Star Wars:

Lea: I love you

Han: I know
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Believe it or not Ace Ventura, the first movie. He was himself, didn't give a damn and bang a chick he just met.
 

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Fatal Jay said:
Believe it or not Ace Ventura, the first movie. He was himself, didn't give a damn and bang a chick he just met.
That's actually a pretty common behavior trait of guys who get laid a lot. Not the imaginary "alphas" in the movies, (who are actually written by beta screenwriters with zero clue), but guys who just HAVE FUN wherever they are and whomever they're with, WITHOUT worrying what others think.
 

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Every man should be strapped down and made to watch "Vertigo" ten times in succession upon entering puberty, not as a guide but as a cautionary tale.
 

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While I'm trying to find one in my head, I think it is worth noting that I went into Don Jon with decent expectations but wow, that movie totally fell apart for me, I wouldn't recommend that at all.

I always remember the beginning/first half of the movie Wanted being pretty fvcking empowering. Movie kind of loses steam from there, but its worth watching.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK0-76FChfk

For context, his best friend is fvcking is girlfriend and he's at a dead end job and is too beta to do anything about it until he realizes what he really is.
 
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The Last American Virgin
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Peaks&Valleys said:
The Last American Virgin

Lol what? It's a good movie but the dude in the movie was a beta. His best bud banged the girl he always wanted, his best bud got her pregnant, the main star helped her get an abortion, and then the chick went right back to the main star best friend.

Samspade I agree with American beauty the husband kelvin spade went from beta to alpha, hate what happened to him at the end.
 

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Fatal Jay said:
Lol what? It's a good movie but the dude in the movie was a beta. His best bud banged the girl he always wanted, his best bud got her pregnant, the main star helped her get an abortion, and then the chick went right back to the main star best friend.
Exactly...
 
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