"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Moved too fast and now I want to slow it down...

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Met a great girl about 4 weeks ago. Cute young and attractive definitely sexy HB8.5. We started seeing eachother at least 5 times a week right at the start bad move I know but I'm a recovering AFC and had a relapse. Problem is her younger sibling died two weeks into our relationship, and so the sexual chemistry and everything went downhill quick, while she dealt with it. but I was there for her through the whole thing because I'm not a complete ass, you know she cried on my shoulder, the whole 9, whatever. Now I'm wanting it to pick back up like we started but it kinda sucks. I definitely moved way to fast with this chick and I'm not even really looking for a relationship. I guess what I'm trying to do is move our relationship to **** buddy status or at least slow it down to where we should have started without her getting pissed because she wants to be my girlfriend. How the **** do I tell this chick that I want to see other chicks but still see her without her completely dropping me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you should have done it from the get-go. now that her sister died and you were there to support her, she probabily thinks what a great friend/boyfriend you are... lol. she probabily thinks how sweet it was of you to stick with her through the tough times and she can trust you..

but now.. lmao. is she in for a shock when you are gonna tell her u wanna pork around with other girls lmao..

ah well, thats the life of a player. just do it like a bandaid. the sooner you get it out there, the easier it will be..

i would say something like:

"Listen... Sarah.. I am really trying to meet misses Right. I don't know for sure wether that is you or not. I do enjoy spending time with you and i like you, but at the same time I need to see what other women are like out there. I simply dont have enough experience to appreciate you as a person but i would like us to continue getting to know each other like we have been doing, but at the same time i want you to know that i am seeing other people."

that should be good enough. she may accept or reject your contract. either way, it is your RULE so stick with it, even if she pretends to hate you for what you said and makes a big drama.. give her a week or two and she will miss you and come back.
 
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