Move with it or drop it?

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Got a girls number that works at the mall with me however we don't work at the same place. We've texted rather briefly but I haven't got her out yet. This is a transcript from last night. My question is should I continue with this or drop it? Thoughts?

Me: I think your pretty cute. I was told you had a bf?

Her: I have an ex boyfriend who I was with for a long time, but I'm not trying to look for a relationship rn ya know?

Me: Well im going to be honest just because I think a girl is good-looking don't mean she's relationship material. Im the type thats like lets chill if something happens it does if not oh well.

Her: That sounds fun id be more than happy to hangout with you

 

[Lozboss]

friendzone alert.

Your chat was weak - Well im going to be honest just because I think a girl is good-looking don't mean she's relationship material. Im the type thats like lets chill if something happens it does if not oh well. is rubbish.

NEXT her right now.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Ahh I see. I will say though with all honesty I haven't been friend zoned in years. I also don't consider her a gf candidate. I've scored in a very similar position in the past.

 

[Lozboss]

Then why ask for advice if you're in denial about reading the signs..,,

 

[switch7]

Got a girls number that works at the mall with me however we don't work at the same place. We've texted rather briefly but I haven't got her out yet. This is a transcript from last night. My question is should I continue with this or drop it? Thoughts?

Me: I think your pretty cute. I was told you had a bf?

Her: I have an ex boyfriend who I was with for a long time, but I'm not trying to look for a relationship rn ya know?

Me: Well im going to be honest just because I think a girl is good-looking don't mean she's relationship material. Im the type thats like lets chill if something happens it does if not oh well.

Her: That sounds fun id be more than happy to hangout with you

A woman doesn't know what she wants. She 'says' she doesn't want a relationship. What she says and what she does are 2 different things. I'd meet up - hold a dominant frame and be sexual, try to escalate. If you don't get the bang or anything sexual out of it then next it.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

^This is exactly what I was thinking.

 

[SmooveMooves]

See you guys text like this, then be the first to cry on sosuave that texting doesn't work.

Pro Tip: Texts should be kept light, fun, & to the point. Texting 'I heard you have a boyfriend.' is a vibe killer and shouldn't be a texting conversation. Im not sure why you would say this in the first place since you claim to not be interested in her relationship wise.

Pro Tip2: You don't need to overtly explain to her that you're not looking for a relationship, actions speak louder than words, and your behavior should be used to display that you won't commit easily. Your second text basically says, 'I don't commit easily' and thats almost as lame as a chick telling you 'She's worth the wait'. You got lucky here since she said that she still wants to see you, but most chicks Wouldn't of texted you back after saying something like that.

Pro Tip3: Don't talk around things you mean to say. Put some flare into what you say. 'I think you're pretty cute.' is something 8th graders pass to each other on notes. Instead you could've said something playful like; 'You looked nice, or did I just catch you on a good day? ' or more direct 'You are attractive.' Saying things with flare is what leads to playful convos which leads to >rapport built which then leads >comfort and familiarity. Ultimately leading upto her >>lying naked in your bed

Texts aren't meant to have serious conversations. Which is what 'what your searching for in a relationship' falls under. Just my 2 cents though Op.

 

[Drummer93]

Got a girls number that works at the mall with me however we don't work at the same place. We've texted rather briefly but I haven't got her out yet. This is a transcript from last night. My question is should I continue with this or drop it? Thoughts?

Me: I think your pretty cute. I was told you had a bf?

:You sound insecure, don't ask if she has a boyfriend. It shouldn't matter to you.

Her: I have an ex boyfriend who I was with for a long time, but I'm not trying to look for a relationship rn ya know? ����

in chick talk: I don't want to be responsible for your neediness. Too many guys I meet want relationships and i'm tired of it.

Me: Well im going to be honest just because I think a girl is good-looking don't mean she's relationship material. Im the type thats like lets chill if something happens it does if not oh well.

Nice rebound. Still you're leaking a little. I always like to say "Woah, who says I wanted a relationship? take it show dork "

Her: That sounds fun id be more than happy to hangout with you ��
Alright i'll give it a chance but don't say I warned you

Don't listen to what they say, look at what they do. Be friends, have fun, take the lead and give her the ultimate experience of what its like being with a man.

ps. stop talking about relationships. think of her as your bratty little sis.

A woman doesn't know what she wants. She 'says' she doesn't want a relationship. What she says and what she does are 2 different things. I'd meet up - hold a dominant frame and be sexual, try to escalate. If you don't get the bang or anything sexual out of it then next it.

YES... to an extent. Even if you don't bang her, it doesn't mean you failed. Creating sexual chemistry will only make her want him more.. it's like a tea kettle steaming louder and louder and louder By doing this, HE controls the sexual frame.. not her.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Thanks for the advice guys. I can definitely see where I need to sharpen up.