Have you been in city lately? I went 3 weeks ago and it was a ghost town and derelicts were all over.I would live in NYC if you can afford it. I live in Jersey and always go into the city when I go out. The places are cooler and the women are hotter, at least they were pre Covid. Plus, New Yorkers despise people from Jersey Lol. If you plan on dating chicks in NYC, some might disqualify just from being from Jersey.
You are right though, NYC women are smokin hot and do look down on Jersey.