"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Move back for GF???

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FiNs2BeCaUgHt

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Hey guys how is going? Well I will keep this brief.
The issue that I have is that im stuck with the decision of staying where I live or MOVE back so I can be with my GF.(I am 16 years old)
I can currently stay with my bro in dallas or... GO back to where I last lived, which is only 2 hours away.
Am I making a mistake by going back??
(I REALLY like this girl)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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shaunuk

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well basically what you're planning to do is move house and to some extent live a new life for the sake of a girlfriend when you're 16. You're really YOUNG man, get out there and live, get girlfriends in your area. I think you'll realise you made a mistake, especially considering you're probably settled where you are.
 
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FiNs2BeCaUgHt

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Yeah shanuk, the thing is I want to move back.. but it took alot of planning for my bro to get me up here.. And I will never know if it could go any further
 
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shaunuk

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But you're 16 bud, there is no "the one", ESPECIALLY when you're 16 :)

if you were wanting to move back ANYWAY, then you wouldn't be asking would you? :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SinJester

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Are you moving back JUST for the girl? Ask yourself honestly. If you like it where you are apart from that and have good reason to be there, my honest opinion would be to let her go.
 
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Also, make your own descision, don't just listen to people on here :p
 
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