"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Motivation

darkstarrr

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I'm beginning to come around after having experiencing the nightmare of my life. I need to find something to motivate me and inspire me that will help me be happy about life. It has to be something creative. Not liking joining a basketball league or something like that. I don't know what but I need to find something because I'm out of my daze but I'm still disallusioned about life.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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romangod

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Write a book.


Cheers!
 

Jitterbug

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Try taking some short courses in arts. I went through a whole lot of them before finding my passion (swing dancing).
 

taiyuu_otoko

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volunteer at a childrens hospital

serve food to the homeless

train for a marathon

go on a mission in africa for two years

join the peace corp

volunteeer at a hospice center for the terminally ill

go on a tv/internet/speaking fast for a month

make it a habit of sitting quietly for an hour a day and pay attention only to your thoughts

read think and grow rich

learn a foreign langauge

re arrange all your furniture

speak only in E Prime

practice affirmations for an hour a day in the mirror

read the bible cover to cover

set small achievable goals and congratulate yourself after each achievement

cold approach one girl a day only to introduce yourself and get her name

take a cross country driving trip and sleep outside everynight

the possibilities are endless
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Scaramouche

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Dear Darkstarr,
Depression is one Hell of a problem,very hard to kick it without help.....If you get any worse seek professional help.....Tokyo and Jitterbug have some good ideas.....try not to dwell on things,go out often,even just for a stroll round the shops...throw yourself into your work,looking after a pet can be very helpful....I have found that in affairs of the heart it is next to impossible to just forget an obsession,you can only transfer it and sublimate it in another...good luck.
 

DarkShade

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I tutor at a nearby Middle School, 7th grade social studies. Those kids are so out of control it's just hilarious to watch the teacher have an aneurysm trying to get them to be quiet. It's helped me get out of my funk because I can connect to them and they are pretty needy kids (bad end of town)
 
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