Motivation in School

[michaelhctam]

Hey DJ's.....

Lately I feel really bad, because I dont feel motivated in school, I dont feel motivated to do well in school work or life in general.

I always mention this to my parents, for example:

"Mom and/or dad, I don't feel motivated to do well in school...."

and they'd give a very generic and canned effort with something like:

"Don't worry Michael! Just do well! Remember dad and I love you very much! Just try!".......*Dad turns newspaper then nods off to sleep, Mom takes another bite of her apple and turns the volume up on the TV*

(-_-)" I respect and appreciate them for trying to make me feel motivated but quite frankly that dosent cut the cake.

Could this just a phase? Or is this a dispicible attitude that I should kill before entering the dreary world of college.......

Sighhhh, can somebody give me some pointers to feel more motivated in life and generally more optimistic to do my homework......

My parents didnt raise me, they allowed the establishment to raise me. They only PROVIDED for me.....and provided well they did, but they did not RAISE me......sighh, I need a role-model....I need a Hero, I need somebody I can look up to.

Anybody you guys can give as a role-model?

At the moment my role model is Lucious Vorenus from 'Rome' because he is truly a man's man....hes my hero. And Titus Pullo is my second....because he is gentle and caring and a good friend but does not take sh!t from anybody.

http://www.hbo.com/rome/cast/character/lucius_vorenus.html

Sigh.....if only I had a person in my life that can teach me properly about life; something like a big brother.......

Maybe thats why I am here, my secret desire for an older brother and not a predominately feminine domestic life.

 

[Redux]

You are relying way too much on outside sources. Remember this, if you don't care about yourself, no one will. If you don't motivate yourself no one will.
Once the inside is complete, the outside follows. Learn to motivate yourself, and your environment will change to motivate YOU!

 

[The Forms]

Oh poor you. If you can't handle high school you might as well shoot yourself because things aren't going to get any easier.

Don't blame your parents in you aren't the person you want to be. Its all your own doing. So what if they let the "establishment" bring you up. Your brain works, so you can change all of that influence whenever you want. You are your choices, so if you want to change who you are, you have to change what you do.

So you can be a stereotypical high school kid who is provided for but still feels the need to complain about his parents and how they somehow failed him in a way that is pretty unclear, or you can start to make your own decisions about life and turn into the person you want to be.

Its easy to romanticize having a big brother. Don't let that be an excuse for being a douche.

 

[The challenger]

i am havin a similar problem. try 2 things
1. getting a gf
2. doing some sort of competitive hobby such as a sport

i have a feeling we get it cause well our body wants 2 things in life
power, and love
it probably seems like power doesnt matter right now, so u gotta work on the love/dating side now

 

[michaelhctam]

Oh poor you. If you can't handle high school you might as well shoot yourself because things aren't going to get any easier.

Don't blame your parents in you aren't the person you want to be. Its all your own doing. So what if they let the "establishment" bring you up. Your brain works, so you can change all of that influence whenever you want. You are your choices, so if you want to change who you are, you have to change what you do.

So you can be a stereotypical high school kid who is provided for but still feels the need to complain about his parents and how they somehow failed him in a way that is pretty unclear, or you can start to make your own decisions about life and turn into the person you want to be.

Its easy to romanticize having a big brother. Don't let that be an excuse for being a douche.

Ok I understand why you critisise me so.

So basically what are you saying? What is the point of this comment?

What makes life after high-school harder, is life after high school so hard for you that you feel a need for someone needing to be shot? How am I a douche, I understand aspects of what makes me 'douche' like blaming my parents instead of myself, that was a fault that (now brought to my acknowledgment) will be eradicated very soon.

Ok from your comment, 1. Stop blaming outside sources.

Anything else you want to comment on? If you wont give me advice the second time I will not consider typing another comment for you.

I understand I am now a 'douche', now how can I solve it?

If you have nothing nice to say dont say anything at all.

Sorry for being a douche.

 

[michaelhctam]

You are relying way too much on outside sources. Remember this, if you don't care about yourself, no one will. If you don't motivate yourself no one will.
Once the inside is complete, the outside follows. Learn to motivate yourself, and your environment will change to motivate YOU!

Now this is advice I respect.

What you say is very true, and I understand what you are saying Redux......

Do you have any methods of improving self-motivation?

I mean its good to seek inside for help, but what if the inside does not have the capacity or knowledge to help me?

'The flesh is willing but the spirit is weak', that quote pretty much sums me up.

 

[Gubby]

I'm not motivated at all by school. I hate it. But I can motivate myself like crazy for anything I'm interested in. I think it might be the same for you. Find something productive to be interested in. Start writing for a magazine, do some sort of business venture, read books, draw...

It's not a great solution but it's better than not being motivated by anything. You need something in your life.

 

[The Shocker]

First of all, Rome is a GREAT show, and there is nothing wrong with admiring someone you don't know, fictional or not. There is nothing wrong with drawing inspiration from unlikely sources. Don't let other people judge your heroes, they are YOUR heroes for a reason.

About motivation...find something to be passionate about, whether it's a subject in school, or a sport, or some type of musical instrument, or art, or whatever. Not only will it change your outlook on life, it makes you more attractive as a person. Women are attracted to passionate men.