"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mother issues

Die Hard

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Just wondering how many of you men have had a bad relationship with your mother. I know I did...

I guess it's kind of a sensitive subject and perhaps many guys wouldn't like to admit it or even want to think about the question... But we're the mature men, so let's just be honest with ourselves and each other.

So who of you have had a bad relationship with his mother?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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georgie24

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I cant reallly pin point my stance with my mother, we dont speak my sister and brother do. Its weird but i have no feeling inside my body to see her or be a " son " to her
 

women haze

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Me and my mother never got along....she felt she raised a failure as a son, and I never said I love her. Yet, after she died of Cancer I guess all the arguments and the times i spent hating her......

I just feel like **** about it....
 
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My mother is a hardcore femininst.............It took me years until i really accepted it...........she is complicated like all women, we don't agree on much............we are different. It's sad and I wish it wasnt like this but it is.

She didnt treat her sons the way other mother did imo, it was more about her. She was one of the career driven women who was probably not meant for marriage and kids. My parents got divorced when I was 13.
 

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Ehh my relationship with my mom is weird I used to love her to death but she raised me to be very catholic like towards women and respect them and treat them right but once she broke her morals and got caught I lost respect for her. can't really say I love you kinda hard.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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georgie24

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mine was all over the place uni-polar ect, i have a few brothers n sister we have diff fathers so yea its a can of worms with mine.

good thread, mature only please !

keep it going
 

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Most of the times mothers are the biggest c0ck blocks in a man's life,all that crap about treat others with respect no matter what,never use violence and consider girls as saints is probably one of the many reasons of the afc wave especially now that fathers don't influence their sons so much being them busy of afcs themselves.

There are even mothers that grow up their kids as if they were asexual,you know those leftist women who deny their sons to play with guns or use war videogames than brag about their sons to be "nice people" because they get kicked while playing soccer but never kick back.
 

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My mom and I are best friends now, but I think she had a big influence on me developing ultra-AFCness in my twenties. I was a late bloomer and have really only begun to shed my AFC traits in the last five years. I still have a lot of them.
 

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Findog said:
My mom and I are best friends now, but I think she had a big influence on me developing ultra-AFCness in my twenties. I was a late bloomer and have really only begun to shed my AFC traits in the last five years. I still have a lot of them.

its a bad habit to kill dog!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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