"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mother: I Do Not Want My Daughter to Be ‘Nice’

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http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/31/i-do-not-want-my-daughter-to-be-nice

I am a radical, card-carrying feminist ...

I bite my tongue so that I won’t hiss at her to be nice. I tell you this confessionally. Because do I think it is a good idea for girls to engage with zealously leering men, like the creepy guy in the hardware store who is telling her how pretty she is? I do not. “Say thank you to the nice man who wolf-whistled!” “Smile at the frat boy who’s date-raping you!” I want my daughter to be tough, to say no, to waste exactly zero of her God-given energy on the sexual, emotional and psychological demands of lame men — of lame anybodies. I don’t want her to accommodate and please. I don’t want her to wear her good nature like a gemstone, her body like an ornament.
My opinion of her opinion: :down:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Raises my blood-pressure just to read this.
 

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Ahhh way too much of this going on. (the gender doesn't exist bull****).

And what it's going to do is NOT give them 'freedom of expression to be who they are" it's going to **** them up majorly.

And it's sad women like this are also making their daughters way too aggressive and masculine with that attitude. What the hell is this crap raising girls like boys and boys like girls. Grr.
 

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I don’t want her to wear her good nature like a gemstone, her body like an ornament.
Somebody should tell this dunce that if she's raising her daughter to not be good natured a body as an ornament will be her only option.

I picture her at the prom in stripy cotton pajamas, eating potato chips with both hands. I picture her slapping a patriarch-damning sticker on her jacket. I picture her running the country,
*Facepalm*

I picture her a pissed off cat herder. Another one lost to the void.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She is sick woman , a lot of women in the comments didnt agree with her . I didnt bother reading the rest of her article.
 

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Typical rich, NYC Jewess raising a brat that can do no wrong. When a 10 year old is the most ethical person you know, you're in deep shıt!
 
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