SmoothSmooth
Master Don Juan
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There is this idea in manosphere that women all want ‘chad’ but in reality, most women have really low self esteem and will eventually just date any guy!
What happens is, men get rejected (for any reason) and automatically think it’s because they weren’t good enough.
The reason they think this is because men are given close to no validation in their daily life from the opposite sex (even handsome men rarely get direct compliments) and society in general - thus men tend to be more insecure about their value in the dating market (it’s made this way!)
In reality, you will see the girl that rejected you with a guy worse than you in every way. And no, he didnt have ‘game’. Most women are very practical and make very illogical decisions when it comes to dating. The PUA community has pedestalised women as being incredibly adept at hunting ‘alpha genes’, but in reality they make terrible choices all the time. Their window for chad and promiscuous behaviour with alphas is severely limited (eg they may do it when they want to cheat on a bf, or on a girls holiday)…it’s very sporadic and few and far between that they act on those urges. A woman that is constantly acting on her sexual urges for alpha genes is someone you want to stay far away from - that’s the definition of a mentally unstable chick there!
From what I observe, most normal girls end up dating guys that may have just one or two attractive traits relative to them, eg she has a better job but he has a better face, or vice versa…because they want to ultimately invest time in relationships that they will believe can get them their desired outcome (security and commitment from a supplicating provider).
Their main priority in the dating game is to find someone who will look after them and their kid. Having flings with exciting men is always secondary to that.
They are primarily on the hunt for a guy who isn’t TOO confident relative to them (too much confidence is a sign he may leave for another girl), that they can see a long term future with based on shared social cues (eg interests, friends circle, values).
just finding a guy that truely loves them, isn’t a complete loser, is compatible and will commit to them for a lifetime is a major WIN. Even hot girls do not place as much value on their looks as you think they do. They do not feel better than the average guy, despite what they may show you on the outside (it’s just a social mask)
What happens is, men get rejected (for any reason) and automatically think it’s because they weren’t good enough.
The reason they think this is because men are given close to no validation in their daily life from the opposite sex (even handsome men rarely get direct compliments) and society in general - thus men tend to be more insecure about their value in the dating market (it’s made this way!)
In reality, you will see the girl that rejected you with a guy worse than you in every way. And no, he didnt have ‘game’. Most women are very practical and make very illogical decisions when it comes to dating. The PUA community has pedestalised women as being incredibly adept at hunting ‘alpha genes’, but in reality they make terrible choices all the time. Their window for chad and promiscuous behaviour with alphas is severely limited (eg they may do it when they want to cheat on a bf, or on a girls holiday)…it’s very sporadic and few and far between that they act on those urges. A woman that is constantly acting on her sexual urges for alpha genes is someone you want to stay far away from - that’s the definition of a mentally unstable chick there!
From what I observe, most normal girls end up dating guys that may have just one or two attractive traits relative to them, eg she has a better job but he has a better face, or vice versa…because they want to ultimately invest time in relationships that they will believe can get them their desired outcome (security and commitment from a supplicating provider).
Their main priority in the dating game is to find someone who will look after them and their kid. Having flings with exciting men is always secondary to that.
They are primarily on the hunt for a guy who isn’t TOO confident relative to them (too much confidence is a sign he may leave for another girl), that they can see a long term future with based on shared social cues (eg interests, friends circle, values).
just finding a guy that truely loves them, isn’t a complete loser, is compatible and will commit to them for a lifetime is a major WIN. Even hot girls do not place as much value on their looks as you think they do. They do not feel better than the average guy, despite what they may show you on the outside (it’s just a social mask)
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