"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Most rejections for beginners are a result of 'not knowing'

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To a girl, accepting a guy's advances is a big deal, like buying a moderately expensive object. They like to 'know' the item in question before buying it. A mistake I made when I first started approaching is that the girl I was approaching would usually be put on the spot to give an IOI before she got a real 'feel' for me. Looking back, I know that some of my first rejections were not a straight-out rejection of my character, it was just that they were still operating in 'be safe rather than sorry' mode. Cuz getting rid of a guy whose really into you is quite a hassle, but thats another topic altogether.

The aforementioned reasons are why casual openers such as opinion openers are so effective. It slows everything down and overall takes a lot of pressure out of the situation. This changes about every month, but the current key words I'm playing in my head are 'smile, slow, steady, pressure-free, comfort'.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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hope7 said:
To a girl, accepting a guy's advances is a big deal, like buying a moderately expensive object. They like to 'know' the item in question before buying it. A mistake I made when I first started approaching is that the girl I was approaching would usually be put on the spot to give an IOI before she got a real 'feel' for me. Looking back, I know that some of my first rejections were not a straight-out rejection of my character, it was just that they were still operating in 'be safe rather than sorry' mode. Cuz getting rid of a guy whose really into you is quite a hassle, but thats another topic altogether.
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Well said. A lot of young guys do make the mistake of "playing it safe" with women during the initial encounter. Being to safe, bland, too nice, plain, no sexuality, putting her on a pedestal, etc. is FAKE. YOU'RE PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM REJECTION but in reality THAT'S NOT THE REAL YOU and also WOMEN CAN SNIFF IT FROM A MILE AWAY AND REJECT YOU QUICKER THAN YOU CAN SAY HI.

When a guy is out with his male friends though, he doesn't act this way. He's relaxed, confident, full of life, cracking jokes and having fun.....there's no pressure on him. IF HE CAN ACT THE SAME WAY AROUND WOMEN AND A PINCH OF SEXUALITY AND TEASE, PROBLEM SOLVED.
 
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