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Don Juan
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I had a HOT freshman jump on my back wearing panties, a shirt, and no bra as I was walking into my dorm room...I threw her off my back and ran away.

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Gotdam...wtfOriginally posted by englishman
Got a strange one...was in the pub in U.K. went to washroom, there was a girl I knew hanging out near the door, so for a joke I pushed her toward the door as if to take her in there.....so I go in get my c**** out and procced to take a wiz...she walks in stands behind me and reaches round and takes hold of my c0ck!!!!! i finished the piss, she shook it for me and put it away....and for some reason that im fvcked if i know i never took it to the next level......
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yep...seriousOriginally posted by So Many Ways
Gotdam...wtf
Are you serious?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your post and I bet a good number of posts here perfectly illustrates how negative internals and poor inner game can kill your opportunities with women, even if they're throwing themselves at you. I can see the same thing when I look back at my experiences. I would always think "there's no way this really hot, smart chick could possibly like me" so I'd end up sabotaging myself.Originally posted by muttley
she carried on wispering to me and me wispering back... at the end i thought, "nah, a girl that like her , pretty and smart basically classy " wouldnt be interested in me....
ARRRRRGGGGG! the reason was i that i cudnt believe a girl so beautiful could want me.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
true, life can be a cruel b1tch and only b/c of your own thinking.Originally posted by So Many Ways
Your post and I bet a good number of posts here perfectly illustrates how negative internals and poor inner game can kill your opportunities with women, even if they're throwing themselves at you. I can see the same thing when I look back at my experiences. I would always think "there's no way this really hot, smart chick could possibly like me" so I'd end up sabotaging myself.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.