"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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As girls like to play hot and cold, what is the best way to say enough you either show me interest or you don't. I brought it up before and got something like ' I dunno', just want to be 'friends for now' etc. How would someone respond to that.

Now i know ppl will say just walk away when a girl plays games, but i wanna do it in a way that makes a man look dignified than in a manner that is like 'oh i give up'
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Unprez said:
As girls like to play hot and cold, what is the best way to say enough you either show me interest or you don't. I brought it up before and got something like ' I dunno', just want to be 'friends for now' etc. How would someone respond to that.

Now i know ppl will say just walk away when a girl plays games, but i wanna do it in a way that makes a man look dignified than in a manner that is like 'oh i give up'
"Friends for now" is your exit cue.

Paradoxically, walking away when you have been put (or put yourself in) this position IS the dignified way to handle things. I know what youre thinking---you want to stick it to her in a way that's not childish but will leave an impression on her like "wow, I just got owned".

Take it from me, trying to go out like this will only make you look bad. By walking away---not calling, not texting, and moving on with your life, you are implicitly telling her you dont have the time nor care for this rubbish. You dont need to have that last word, because you have the last ACTION.

Her: "I dunno...let's just be friends for now."
You, with a smile: "Thank you, but no. Good day, mrs. HB."

And that's it. If she decides she wants you she can call your as$.
 

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First of all, never tell a girl you like her. After you tell her you like her and she rejects you, just walk away and use social proof to your advantage. In other words, let her see you flirting and having fun with other girls!
 

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You can persist and soldier thru while seducing her regardless. With a 50/50 shot.

Or, you can in a mature way explain that her games are innappropriate and not the way a grown man wants a grown woman to be.

In short, she needs to grow up and be honest. It's childish to play games like that. Let her know your dissapointed and you expected more from her character.
 

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It takes maturity to accept when a girl is just not that into you. When a girl holds you in high regard, she will make her interest level known covertly/overtly. If she plays games, she is covertly stating "LOW IL".

Move on. If you sell yourself short just one time, one thing is for certain; it was won't be your last time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Colossus said:
"Friends for now" is your exit cue.
You dont need to have that last word, because you have the last ACTION.

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" ...you have the last ACTION ".. yep, love it.
 

jophil28

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guru1000 said:
. If she plays games, she is covertly stating "LOW IL".

Move on. If you sell yourself short just one time, one thing is for certain; it was won't be your last time.
Good advice...If you do signal your willingness to engage in her early frame grab , you can expect more of the same.
Women feel ( foolishly) that they are entitled to control relationships with men from moment#1 and so they go to work immediately.

THis is where indifference or resistance to her attempts at control works for you ( C and F works well here ). It sends her the message that she cannot easily control the interaction AND it creates a challenge for her. If her attraction level is moderate to high to start with, your tactics will amplify it even further.That puts you in control, and as LMS would say. "That is the natural order of things ." :yes:
 

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Put her in a situation where she has to either show additional interest in you or leave you. This works perfectly for every situation I can imagine.
 
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