Most guys would be better off quitting this and finding other pursuits.

[Good Gao]

I feel like we give off the wrong impression in regards to who a DJ is. We give off the impression that any guy out there can do it and make it big in the game, giving everyone false hope. The reality is that most guys do not have it in them to be DJs, they lack the inner alpha to truly make it and are just wasting time.

I have read a lot of posts and comments on this forum to the point I am forced to make this post and say that most guys just don't have it in them to be DJs.

It is not an insult to anyone but this stuff is hard.

Cold approaching women, getting rejected, and just trying to do all that is possible to build the life. It is not that most guys on here are soft, it is just that this stuff is that hard unless you're a trust fund baby or some guy born with all the right genetics. If you didn't luck into this sort of life growing up and are trying to break in as an outsider, you are going against the grain in a big way. The vast majority of men are not made out for that sort of life because that sort of life is just rough.

In my view and I know many would agree, most guys on here are just wasting time. Time that could be spent on another hobby that involves making money and putting yourself in a better position for the future.

A lot of you depressed whiners talking about how unfair the game is, well, it isn't going to stop being unfair because you're crying about it on an internet forum.

I know from personal experience.

Growing up as an Asian guy in Canada (a country quite underrated for its racism), me living the kind of life I want was unrealistic. Over the course of many years through bettering myself, getting rejected a lot, doing research on good cities for guys like me, running game in different cities, and trying different things I finally have the success I want with the kinds of women I want. It did not come easy, in fact there were many situations where I felt like giving up.

It would have been better for me at the time to give up.

Eating nachos on Saturday nights as I watch TV?

Way better than going to bars and getting rejected.

Playing videogames instead of going out to daygame?

Much more comfortable.

But I kept on grinding and put in countless hours when I could have easily given up. For me to expect that out of most guys on here is unrealistic because most guys would have easily given up in my shoes. They would caved in to pressure, stopped their pursuit of the kinds of women they want, and just settled; you can't hate them for that because the game is that tough.

Most of you on here are wasting time.

You are not going to be a DJ and the game will spit you out.

You spend too much time crying about things you cannot change instead of actually doing something about your situation.

You don't have the inner strength to make it through the game from start to finish.

You know this about yourself too.

All of that time can be spent in other hobbies such as cooking or something of that nature, not chasing women. Younger guys use that time to build a nice business or a nice career that can get you money and when you are in your 30s, the same women that ignored you in their early 20s will now consider you for an LTR or marriage! Nothing wrong with being a bread winner because most guys are not made to be alphas anyways.

The time you spend chasing a lifestyle you lack the requirements to have is time that can be spent in more useful pursuits. Leave this forum and get out there!

 

[skinnyguy]

I feel like we give off the wrong impression in regards to who a DJ is. We give off the impression that any guy out there can do it and make it big in the game, giving everyone false hope. The reality is that most guys do not have it in them to be DJs, they lack the inner alpha to truly make it and are just wasting time.

I have read a lot of posts and comments on this forum to the point I am forced to make this post and say that most guys just don't have it in them to be DJs.

It is not an insult to anyone but this stuff is hard.

Cold approaching women, getting rejected, and just trying to do all that is possible to build the life. It is not that most guys on here are soft, it is just that this stuff is that hard unless you're a trust fund baby or some guy born with all the right genetics. If you didn't luck into this sort of life growing up and are trying to break in as an outsider, you are going against the grain in a big way. The vast majority of men are not made out for that sort of life because that sort of life is just rough.

In my view and I know many would agree, most guys on here are just wasting time. Time that could be spent on another hobby that involves making money and putting yourself in a better position for the future.

A lot of you depressed whiners talking about how unfair the game is, well, it isn't going to stop being unfair because you're crying about it on an internet forum.

I know from personal experience.

Growing up as an Asian guy in Canada (a country quite underrated for its racism), me living the kind of life I want was unrealistic. Over the course of many years through bettering myself, getting rejected a lot, doing research on good cities for guys like me, running game in different cities, and trying different things I finally have the success I want with the kinds of women I want. It did not come easy, in fact there were many situations where I felt like giving up.

It would have been better for me at the time to give up.

Eating nachos on Saturday nights as I watch TV?

Way better than going to bars and getting rejected.

Playing videogames instead of going out to daygame?

Much more comfortable.

But I kept on grinding and put in countless hours when I could have easily given up. For me to expect that out of most guys on here is unrealistic because most guys would have easily given up in my shoes. They would caved in to pressure, stopped their pursuit of the kinds of women they want, and just settled; you can't hate them for that because the game is that tough.

Most of you on here are wasting time.

You are not going to be a DJ and the game will spit you out.

You spend too much time crying about things you cannot change instead of actually doing something about your situation.

You don't have the inner strength to make it through the game from start to finish.

You know this about yourself too.

All of that time can be spent in other hobbies such as cooking or something of that nature, not chasing women. Younger guys use that time to build a nice business or a nice career that can get you money and when you are in your 30s, the same women that ignored you in their early 20s will now consider you for an LTR or marriage! Nothing wrong with being a bread winner because most guys are not made to be alphas anyways.

The time you spend chasing a lifestyle you lack the requirements to have is time that can be spent in more useful pursuits. Leave this forum and get out there!

But I love sitting here watching you contradict yourself many times over about whether women are racist or not and bashing guys who are better with women than you are.

Is that you Poon King?

 

[bigneil]

So would most girls, like you Gao.

 

[ubercat]

Total rubbish. Long as you ve got a car job semi decent physique game on. You ll do fine. The randomness of chicks will provide.

 

[bigneil]

You don't have the inner strength to make it through the game from start to finish.

You know this about yourself too.

Dear Jaylan, aka Listen to Olly, aka Trainwreck, aka Good Gao: you wish, you fat old welfare non-mom (you couldn't even get pregnant in the welfare age).

 

[EyeBRollin]

It's not hard. It takes dedication over time.

Read the DJ Bible.
Increase your income.
Increase your wealth.
Train to higher levels of fitness (thus changing your physique).
Establish a sense of style.
Have your own place.
Have a presentable, relaible car.

After you have all this, go out and chase rejection. Every rejection is money in the bank. More rejection equals more lays.

AFC approaches 3 women a month. He gets lucky to bang one of them, every other month or so. DJ approaches 50 women a month. He bangs out 10 of them.

Get used to approaching women. Most of them won't like you. Get past their bull****. When the fish start biting, close the deal.

 

[Thorninmyside]

I think adopting the DJ outlook in its holistic sense is being the best version of ourselves. A lot of guys are trying to be the best version of somebody else, like a personality transplant that just won't take. Until it's authentic, you're just faking. In those times I'd say take a time out rather than quit all together.

 

[corrector]

It's not hard. It takes dedication over time.

Read the DJ Bible.
Increase your income.
Increase your wealth.
Train to higher levels of fitness (thus changing your physique).
Establish a sense of style.
Have your own place.
Have a presentable, relaible car.

Isn't that what the OP is already saying?

After you have all this, go out and chase rejection. Every rejection is money in the bank. More rejection equals more lays.

AFC approaches 3 women a month. He gets lucky to bang one of them, every other month or so. DJ approaches 50 women a month. He bangs out 10 of them.

Get used to approaching women. Most of them won't like you. Get past their bull****. When the fish start biting, close the deal.

Sure...with this advice maybe you can look into it 5 or 10 years down the road. That's called procrastination. Meanwhile, the OP will not have any DJ skills to deal with women in the workplace, in the school that he's going to study in, inside the GYM that he is going to work out, and will just be oblivious to doing the type of things that requires that "inner DJ" to come out. So, taking a vacation from rejection by doing these other activities just to face rejection 5 or 10 later sounds a bit weird.

 

[corrector]

I've been listing to a UK PUA coach, he has some youtube videos, his name is Johnny Berba, and I like his energy because the way he approaches women in the UK sort of resonates with me and I would like to recommend this to the OP as a beacon of hope:

I think the only solution is to look at any video about guys approaching and talking to women, getting rejected, but coming out enjoying the process where it's just a bonus if you get a close. At a core level, you just want to express yourself and maybe get in a good convo here or there. To me that's all difficult as well, but I think in the past, when I tuned into these videos I was more apt to cold approach.

It's not realistic to shut women out and say you'd rather do x,y,z then put yourself out there, feel bad and get rejected because you still have to always deal with them whether we like it or not. They are cashiers when we buy things from the store. They are eye-candy that we see all the time when we go out. They are everywhere and you are not going to be able to just stay at home all day to avoid them so you have to still deal with them.

 

[nismo-4]

It takes time. Rome wasn't built in a day. Boo f**kin' hoo. You get out what you put in. This is about to become a useless, non-productive pity party. That don't fly here.

Put in the damn work and stop whining.

Thread closed. Clear the courtroom and improve a stat about yourself.