"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok so there is this girl Ive known for about two years. Shes been in a few of my classes and we get along very well. Now I try not to invest too much time or effort into this girl because Ive asked her out about 4 or 5 times over these two years and every time she flakes out or doesnt return my calls. (The most recent was last week.)
Anyway whenever we do talk in class she is very flirty with me. She always just looks at me and smiles and laughs a little bit. And the other day in the middle of class she just looked at me and grabbed my hand and told me she loved me...WTF? I just smiled and winked at her cause I didnt know what to say.
Anyway after class were walking together and she asks me when i am going to fall in love with her which i take as "when are you going to make a move".. Again...WTF??

Ive tried getting with this girl on several occasions and got blown off. So what do I do now? Do I ask her out again and see if itll be different this time or do I just move on and not think about it anymore? I know she likes me but Im just so fvckin confused on what to do at this point.. any help?:nervous:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Keep aloof & a bit indifferent, mysterious. She needs to chase you........ right into the lions den!
 
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So...why don't you just make a move?

Aka. Kiss her
 
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Next time you leave class together put your arm around her and tell her when you to are going to go out. Say something like "hey, we're going out on Friday. There's bar/restaurant that I've been wanting to check out so you can come with me."

And then smile and look at her.

You tell her that the two of you are going out...don't give her an out. Put yourself in charge of the situation. You've asked before so now you just have to tell her the 2 of you are going to do something.

If she says no or flakes or whatever, then write her off and start on the next one. She had her shot and didn't take it...her loss, not yours.

I'm usually not this forward/demanding, but you've asked her out in the past and didn't get results. IF she's really acting how you describe she is (grabbing you and whatnot), then you just have to go get what you want.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok thanks guys I think Im gonna just tell her were going out next time I see her... If she flakes out again ill be done.. Kissing her would be a good idea but it would be super awkward cuz I dont think I could get her alone at school
 
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If you want to have some fun try the pre-emptive LJBF.

Tell her you don't see her romantically you see her as great friend.

Tell her you hope that you both can be great friends forever.

She will either agree and act like a plutonic friend (solves your quandry about where you stand)..... OOOORRR...She will be shocked that you don't see her in a sexual way and feel rejected and within a month be all over you for revalidation.

If a girl LJBF you its over, Jonny.

If you LJBF a girl, it's on.

You've got to be willing to risk it though.

AND you must let her see you with other girls.

Act like a 'friend' but don't tell her very much about what's going on in your life.

Could be a fun learning experience.
 
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Dang I dont think I have the guts to try the LJBF move...
My problem is never being indifferent or acting uninterested. Im good at that. Im just not too good at showing enough interest to let her know Im interested without showing too much...
 
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Am I the only one here believing that she is playing with you?!?

I mean, you have asked her out 3-4 times and she flaked!

She said she loved you in the middle of the class!! Why would anyone who wanted to share his feelings would do it this way?!?

I'd say you should show her less interest! When you are in class together, don't be the first to go over and talk to her... Play it busy! BE with other women and make sure she'll see you!!
 
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DonJuanit0 said:
Am I the only one here believing that she is playing with you?!?

I mean, you have asked her out 3-4 times and she flaked!

She said she loved you in the middle of the class!! Why would anyone who wanted to share his feelings would do it this way?!?

I'd say you should show her less interest! When you are in class together, don't be the first to go over and talk to her... Play it busy! BE with other women and make sure she'll see you!!
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Exactly. Though I would go further and say that if you have already asked her out that many times and she has flaked every time, go and game other women for YOURSELF, not just because you think it might impress her. This one's not worth your time. Next her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wodinart said:
Exactly. Though I would go further and say that if you have already asked her out that many times and she has flaked every time, go and game other women for YOURSELF, not just because you think it might impress her. This one's not worth your time. Next her.
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I would say next her too, but this guy talks about 2 years! :p He won't next her that easy... :/
 
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