Most commonly asked newbie questions answered right here!

[Felix9901]

Let me give you some examples...

You may be really good at opening, but maybe you go into interview mode and the girl loses interest.

You may be really good at getting phone numbers, but then you get ghosted or she flakes on the date.

You may be really good at keeping the conversation going, but you never escalate towards getting physical.

You don't REALLY know what your problem is until you go out there and run into it a couple of times. That's why I'm saying that you won't recall most of the material you're studying because you don't even know what's important to know about yourself yet.

I get it, well, put it that way, I'd say one problem now:
I'm very good at keeping the conversation going while I'm in a group of people, i could even be the center of attention, but when i go alone with a girl my confidence gets disabled because i don't know what to say, i try to keep things the more directly i can so when i I'm alone with girls most of the job is already done and i have to just do simple things like kissing or advancing without saying a word. Of course it limits my amount of success.

 

[BPH]

but when i go alone with a girl my confidence gets disabled because i don't know what to say, i try to keep things the more directly i can so when i I'm alone with girls, most of the job is already done and i have to just do simple things like kissing or advancing without saying a word.

I don't get it...you're saying you lose confidence when you're alone with a girl...but also saying that most of your job is already done at that point, so all you need to do is escalate, which is correct.

So where's the problem?