Morning After Pill:

[Heaven or Hell]

I have a question about the morning after pill ... My gf is a virgin and she is not on birth control due to medical reasons. She is a virgin and is scared of getting pregnant if we have sex. When I mentioned the morning after pill to her, she mentioned to me that several of her friends who have taken it in the past got really sick, and in some cases so much pain that they had to go to hospital because of it. So now she is scared to take the pill, and I am not sure if there are any other alternatives?

Have any of you who have had a partner who has taken the morning after pill experienced any of the symptoms (or any other symptoms / side effects) that my gf has described?

I had a chat with a local pharmacist and he told me that the morning after pill can be used regularly and should not have any bad symptoms or long lasting side effects... & that back in the day maybe it would have but these days with medical advancements etc they are safe to use, and on a regular basis (i heard once that morning after pill should only be used 3 or 4 times in their lives)

Anyways, what is your guys input on this?

Thanks for feedback in advance!

 

[Heaven or Hell]

My gf took it a couple of months ago (broken condom) and she was fine. Maybe some minor cramps or discomfort, but nothing that required a doctor.

How many times has she taken it before? Is it true that the more times she uses it the less effective it becomes?

On that note, what does she take on a regular basis? Is she on the normal pill that she has to take every day? My gf cant take the normal one due to medical reasons, so is there another alternative perhaps?

 

[Rescue Mission]

Dude you already made a thread about this "girlfriend" of yours:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=175344

you didn't listen to ANY of the advice, and now it comes out that you haven't even had sex with her yet??

What in the hell is wrong with you???

 

[Zarky]

Dude you already made a thread about this "girlfriend" of yours:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=175344

you didn't listen to ANY of the advice, and now it comes out that you haven't even had sex with her yet??

What in the hell is wrong with you???

Nice catch. A 28 year old shouldn't be dating a virgin anyway, unless he's in some foreign culture that has non-western values; and in that case he shouldn't be getting advice here.

Having said that, the morning-after pill is NOT designed to be used as regular birth control. It's a large dose of hormones and is meant for emergency contraception. If a girl can't use normal birth control pills she probably can't use morning-after pills.

She should ask her doctor, not get advice from random anonymous internet people.

Dump this chick and get a woman who puts out.

 

[Kailex]

Dude you already made a thread about this "girlfriend" of yours:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=175344

you didn't listen to ANY of the advice, and now it comes out that you haven't even had sex with her yet??

What in the hell is wrong with you???

Unfortunately, a few of us had caught that a few days before:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=175316

 

[Heaven or Hell]

If any of you dipsh!ts actually read the threads I made prior to this one, you would know that I was fully open and honest regarding the relationship and our sexual state. Unlike some of you, sex isn't everything for everyone, and some people prefer waiting. I respect her even more knowing that she was willing to wait until she found the guy she thought was the right guy for her (that being me now).

Who the f*ck are you to judge me or tell me who I should and should not be dating? I came here asking for advise about something and you come here looking for reasons to flame me and bring me down? go f*ck yourselves and find other places to take out your (sexual) frustrations.

Thanks to those who responded accordingly to the tone of this thread, I appreciate the input.

 

[DMSR76]

Lately the personal jousting on this board has begun to get out of hand. Are we sure this is the Mature Men's forum? Moderators really need to reign this foolishness in.

 

[Kailex]

Alright dipsh!t, since you want to resort to name calling and insulting and other forms of womanesse tactics, here ya go:

I respect her even more knowing that she was willing to wait until she found the guy she thought was the right guy for her (that being me now).

She is a virgin and is scared of getting pregnant if we have sex. When I mentioned the morning after pill to her, she mentioned to me that several of her friends who have taken it in the past got really sick, and in some cases so much pain that they had to go to hospital because of it.

She can't take birth control, she's giving you lame reasons NOT to use the morning after pill... but what about condoms? She afraid of those too? And has she read up on her cycle? To see which days are the least fertile for her?

PROBABLY NOT.

How long have you two been together? 6-7 months now? And she's handing out reasons to NOT have sex instead of researching alternatives TOGETHER???

Has she said that she wants to find viable ways to have sex?

Or is she just that absent-minded when it comes to sexual intercourse that she believes that just sticking your pen!s in her makes the stork come around for a nice little gift in a basket?



You want an answer to your original question, here it is:

Your doctor said one thing. She's saying another.
Nothing is going to change her mind about it, solely because "people she knows" have had the side-effects.

In other words, there's nothing you can really do to convince her to have sex. That's up to her.

Why are you asking us? So that you can be convinced that the morning pill is safe to use? So that you can go tell her that: Hey SoSuave says it's okay, my doctor says it's okay, so... let's have sex, and just take this pill regularly.

The question isn't stupid, but the premise under which you are asking the question is. It doesn't matter WHAT product you look up, if she DOESN'T want to have sex, she won't, no matter how much research and proof you hand to her.

 

[Heaven or Hell]

@ Kailex:

Has she said that she wants to find viable ways to have sex?

Answer is YES

We are going to have sex within the next couple of days, but naturally she has fears of getting pregnant, like any responsible person would have.

Her not being able to take the regular pill is not an excuse, but rather a condition. She would be on the pill if it was up to her.

After talking to her about it further tonight, we decided that we'll buy the morning after pill just in case something goes wrong (ie: condom breaking), and that I'll wear a condom, but I won't cvm inside of her.

From this point, we will continue to try and find a way / alternative to the regular pill that she cant take and will most probably go visit a chemist / doctor to discuss possible options.

And for the record, she is the one who brought up the topic of us having sex, I guess I am one of the few men in the world that value emotional aspects of a relationship more than the sexual, though the sexual is still important to me to an extent. I'm just hoping that we are able to find a solution to our predicament that will accommodate our circumstances. Frankly, not to be able to orgasm inside of her is a big downer for me, though not the end of the world. And so my search for a viable alternative continues...

 

[Rescue Mission]

There are almost a dozen different forms of birth control

there's the shot, the Nuva Ring, and others, that have nothing to do with pills.

Also, it's NOT a relationship unless sex is involved.........it may be a nice middle school relationship if you're 13 and making out alot, but at 28, to have a GODDAMN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP - makes you a TOTAL PVSSY

How good of a "relationship" do you think that you have here, when you need to post about ISSUES on this forum so often???

You are not ready for a committment, you need to learn how to get laid first!

 

[Jeffst1980]

Morning after pill should NOT be used as regular birth control.

Condoms, however, are excellent forms of birth control.
If you want to hedge your bets, pick the time of the month right after her period--the risk of pregnancy will essentially be zero.

It's all pretty simple stuff. What I'm hearing is that she's just not ready to lose her virginity. I'd move on.

 

[runner83]

It's all pretty simple stuff. What I'm hearing is that she's just not ready to lose her virginity. I'd move on.

Exactly. It's not rocket science.

Although, if I understand right, she still has feelings for some guy from previously?....I very much doubt that she's actually a virgin.

 

[2crudedudes]

If any of you dipsh!ts actually read the threads I made prior to this one, you would know that I was fully open and honest regarding the relationship and our sexual state. Unlike some of you, sex isn't everything for everyone, and some people prefer waiting. I respect her even more knowing that she was willing to wait until she found the guy she thought was the right guy for her (that being me now).

Who the f*ck are you to judge me or tell me who I should and should not be dating? I came here asking for advise about something and you come here looking for reasons to flame me and bring me down? go f*ck yourselves and find other places to take out your (sexual) frustrations.

Thanks to those who responded accordingly to the tone of this thread, I appreciate the input.

Translation: I'm not hearing what I want to hear so you're all dumbasses. She's different! I fvcking swear! She's not like every other slut out there, why can't you see it?


You need to seriously grow the fvck up.

 

[Zarky]

We are going to have sex within the next couple of days,

heh heh.. would anybody like to make a little wager on this? I bet, surprise surprise, that it doesn't happen.

 

[Sandow]

This sounds like a high school relationship to me, but to answer your questions. I don't think the morning after pill should be used regularly, you should get a second opinion on that. By taking the morning after pill, she is flooding her body with tons of hormones, hence why they get so sick and nautious. The morning after pill is the equivalent of taking a bunch of BC pills (I'm estimating 10 or so).

I'm actually very surprised she is so worried about getting pregnant. Why haven't you guys talked about condoms? Condoms are one of the best ways to stay safe. How do you not know this, unless you've been living in a cave somewhere. Also, there is the shot and the ring which are very popular. Bottom line there are plenty of ways of BC. And she shouldn't use the morning after pill regularly, that can't be good for her

 

[Kailex]

It just dawned on me.

Tell her to do it anally.
That way, she keeps her "virginity" and you can finish inside.

And for the record, she is the one who brought up the topic of us having sex, I guess I am one of the few men in the world that value emotional aspects of a relationship more than the sexual, though the sexual is still important to me to an extent.

I know a few women that would LOVE you at Loveshack.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Heaven or Hell,
Yeah...I had a casual Girlfriend who was just hopeless with remembering her Pill,so the Morning after Pill was often on the Menu...absolutely No problem,just a nuisance to get a Doctors appointment,wait for a prescription etc...My Doc told me that it is very popular in France,must be the only thing they don't stick up their bum.

 

[Heaven or Hell]

Alright so we had sex last night, and things went pretty well. It didn't hurt her as much as we expected, though we had to start really slow and the first couple or minutes or so were uncomfortable/sore for her, though I was as gentle as I could be. We also did a lot of foreplay before to make things a little easier.

We did discuss condoms, that is the first and most obvious protection that goes without say, but she still wanted to have the morning after pill on hand just in case something went wrong, so we both went to the chemist together to get it yesterday afternoon, and also had a little chat with the chemist too, which re-assured her a but more.

Anyways, to respond to some of you:

@ Rescue Mission

Thank you for the info about the Nuva Ring, I'll look more into it.

Also, it's NOT a relationship unless sex is involved.........it may be a nice middle school relationship if you're 13 and making out alot, but at 28, to have a GODDAMN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP - makes you a TOTAL PVSSY

Thank you for your honest opinion, though I simply don't agree with this outlook. Maybe it has to do with my upbringing, but I don't seem to put as much weight on sex as some people on this forum. I respect everyone's preferences and outlooks and I would hope that you would do the same in return, instead of hold it against me and use that as an excuse to flame me and try bring me down.

How good of a "relationship" do you think that you have here, when you need to post about ISSUES on this forum so often???

I like to be able to see what others have to say. Don't get me wrong, I don;t have to AGREE with everything everyone says, but I do like getting input, and knowing this forum, I kinda expect there to be those who look for reasons to flame and take out their life frustrations on me, but somewhere in between all of the bs there are those who give some solid and helpful advise, so to me its a matter of sifting through the bs and taking in the genuine solid replies that I get. No offense

You are not ready for a commitment, you need to learn how to get laid first!

I lost my virginity on my 18th birthday, 10 years ago, and I have had several sexual partners since, though I still maintain my outlook that sex is not everything to me and that I would far prefer to have a healthy emotional relationship rather than a sexual one. Of course having both would be ideal, but everything has a right time and a right place so I am not going to let sex be a deal breaker for me by any means.

@ Jeffst1980

Thank you for the info, I will keep that in mind.

@ runner83

I think you misunderstood. She definitely does not have feelings for her ex anymore. He may still have feelings for her, but that is not something that she has any control over, nor should we let that affect our relationship, why should we? She has cut contact with him and moved on with me, so I'm looking at moving forward and not looking for reasons to bring negativity into the relationship, but the contrary rather.

@ 2crudedudes

I really think you should stop, think, and perhaps take your own advise And I am not saying this with a bad tone, I genuinely think that it would do you a world of good.

@ Zarky

I'll PM you my bank details...

@ Shadow

Thank you for the input I appreciate you taking the time to explain things in detail, I will keep it in mind.

@ Kailex

haha, anal isn't for me, have always thought of that as being a little vulgar, reminds me of a awkward situation I was in with a girl once, but yeah, lets just say I don't like the idea of anal sex Though I am not about to judge or look down at anyone else who likes it, like I said before I respect everyone's preferences, each to his own.

@ Scaramouche

Thank you very much for a "to the point" and helpful reply. I appreciate the input.


On that note, we are going to make an appointment with a doctor sometime in the near future to discuss viable options regarding this topic, so I am sure that it is just a matter of time until we find a solution that works for us.

Thanks again for the time and input.