"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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More women out on "The Hunt" because of the New Year

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Have any of you guys noticed this over the last couple of days? Since New Years I've been approached more by women both when I'm out and about and while I am online. They aren't just saying "hi" either, they are truly approaching with a purpose. Even women that had slipped off my radar months ago are coming out of the woodwork. What gives?

Do you guys think that women have chosen to be more aggressive as their New Year's resolution? Has Oprah or "The View" plugged this idea into their heads?

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'd put it down to them having no-one over the holiday period, and getting all lonely. New years seems like the ideal time to do something about it.
 
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maybe they just see the new year as a new opportunity to get a new man in their lives.
 
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That's what I'm guessing but this year it seems that women are a bit more determined. I thought it was just the ones online but even just sitting in a coffee shop or browsing in a bookstore I'm being approached by women that seem more "ballsy" than I had noticed before. No complaints, it's just amusing to watch.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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maybe they just see the new year as a new opportunity to get a new man in their lives.
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That's what I was thinking. A new years resolution to find a man.

I hear chocolate only does it for so long ;)
 
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Don't forget guys, Valentines Day is only a month or so away, so they could be thinking ahead.
 
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Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
Don't forget guys, Valentines Day is only a month or so away, so they could be thinking ahead.
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nah most of us dont seem to care about that day if we arent involved with someone.

its not like we all sit and worry about ways to get flowers, lol.
 
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Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
Don't forget guys, Valentines Day is only a month or so away, so they could be thinking ahead.
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Aren't they scoundrels? Always looking ahead.


Truer words have never been written . . .
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
Don't forget guys, Valentines Day is only a month or so away, so they could be thinking ahead.
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Ahhhh, therein lies their devilish plan... Attempting to spin a web for those who will feed their need for the spoils bestowed upon them an unsuspecting AFCs who have hopes of capturing their admiration with the lure of gifts wrapped in crimson.
 
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I wish I had the problem of girls approaching me!

Girls not approaching me is why I came to sites like this in the first place.

Nothing has changed but I've gotten better at attracting them so they will eventually chase after me!
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
That's what I'm guessing but this year it seems that women are a bit more determined. I thought it was just the ones online but even just sitting in a coffee shop or browsing in a bookstore I'm being approached by women that seem more "ballsy" than I had noticed before. No complaints, it's just amusing to watch.
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I must visit this Minneapolis of which you write.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Ricky
I wish I had the problem of girls approaching me!

Girls not approaching me is why I came to sites like this in the first place.

Nothing has changed but I've gotten better at attracting them so they will eventually chase after me!
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Eh, just work on being more approachable. Maybe start off by looking at the women around you and notice what makes some more approachable than others.

I got caught once in a book store doing this and locked eyes with one woman who asked outright why I was purposely checking out every woman in the store. I was caught so what could I do? I told her the truth. I was trying to figure out why some women seemed more approachable than others. She gave me a stupid look and told me that she could tell me herself. Long story short, it's more about you than it is them.
 
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I must visit this Minneapolis of which you write.
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Eh, save your money. If you want to visit someplace worthwhile in the states, I'd suggest Denver.
 
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Was out there last month for a ski trip but I didn't see much of the city this time. I love Denver, urban but not too crowded, women are in much better shape than the beasts here in Chicago. Close to skiing, and in the summer rafting, biking, climbing, fishing, etc. I've tried working my contacts out there but haven't been able to find a good job. That's one of the few places I could live where I would consider working in a cube again.
 
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