"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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More than half of you are doing it all wrong.

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Okay my first time writing a tip, but I've gone from AFC to DJ in a matter of 2 months and just some of the s-hit i read here just shows me how many of you are actually getting the whole concept wrong.

First of all, you can read all of the information here, suck it up like a sponge and still be failing because you fail to grasp the overall concept of what the website is all about.

It is not helping you (or anybody else for that matter) to use your newly found DJ skills on a single girl, or even worse your one-itis chick.

It is extremely vital to be applying and trying out all the new skills on MULTIPLE girls through cold approaches. Why you might ask? When you cold approach a girl you don't know they're not going to have much of an opinion of you either way, it is only through your actions (and how the female responds to them) that you can see if you're progressing down the path to DJ or not.

If you're trying to DJ the same chick and only that one chick, well the past history you have with her is ruining any benefits you would otherwise be gaining from cold approaches.

Plain and simple its easier to see progress and become a true DJ, through using tactics on multiple girls and through cold approaches.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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nobody here cold approaches. didnt you get the memo?
 

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a lot of us do actually. But we are too busy sarging and getting numbers to find the time to write long articles defending the cold approach.
 

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Originally posted by C00L
nobody here cold approaches. didnt you get the memo?
I think I got it. Wasn't the one advocating "one-itis?"
 

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Exactly the reason i have under 50 posts. I'm actually out there picking up girls.

I got some PM's asking me how to get the balls to cold approach.

Lets just say that i used to have social anxiety, did my own method of a boot camp ... and now I have a bunch of girls chasing me, a couple F-uck buddies, and my cell phone is FULL of numbers of hotties who i might call eventually haha.

Okay enough of that. The purpose of this post was to tell all the guys that are apply all of the sosuave s-hit to a single girl that they're never EVER going to get anywhere.

Cold approach and work on your game on multiple girls or give up and be a p-ussy for the rest of your life. The choice is yours.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah you feel like the man after your not shy any more right mintyfresh? haha i know that feeling man. it feels FUKIN GREAT!! TO NOT BE SHY! WO HOO! PLAYSA4LIFE!
 

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Yeah man - it does feel great :D

Not sure if its a good thing or not, but i've become UBER f-ucking picky at which girls i actually want to put my time and effort into. For example i approached 4 girls yesterday 3 were HB7-8 and 1 was a HB10.

I talked to each of them for 5-10 minutes and honestly 3 of them were just not up to my standards haha. Ridiculous that i have high standards now ... (also ironic that it was a HB8 whos number i got and not the HB10.) Just plain not interested in wasting time in girls that aren't pretty enough or cool enough to be around.

Get in the field you keyboard whor-es.

edit: maybe 2 examples from yesterday will help ya'll approach who claim you can't.

noticed a hot girl get out of her car and was walking behind me for 30 seconds or so (and her shoes were making a really loud tapdancing sound with each step), so i turn around and go "god damn can't you afford some shoes that make less noise haha". She smiled right away and sped up to walk next to me in protest that her shoes were very comfortable and not loud enough to annoy people. Then i said something about how even if they're comfortable she needs some new shoes that dont annoy the hell out of people and that wouldn't fit a toddler (they were seiously the smallest shoes ive ever seen). Fluff talk for a couple more minutes, obvious she wanted me to ask for her number ... but her eyes were coved with ugly eye shadow hehe... she asked if i walked by there any other time during the week ... i told her she could catch up with me in the same spot the day after tomorrow (to prove herself to me mostly.)

Another approach that went really well was i was in the cafeteria at my college and this girl was sitting at the table next to me doing her work, so i got off my cell phone and approached her. She was all like "oh my god you scared me" ... then i noticed her freaky contacts, which she was all too eagar to talk about (they made her eyes the deepest shade of blue humanly possible was scary looking). Talking for a few minutes shook her hand said nice to meet her (she wasnt that interesting.)

Sarge on people.
 
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he probably talked to a girl and didn't get rejected for the first time ever, and now thinks he is the DJ amoung DJ's :rolleyes:
 

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LMAO "didn't you get the memo?" that cracked me up. Reminds me of officespace for some reason.

I need to get better at cold approaches, lots of hotties walkin around campus just waiting for it. I'll tell you one thing, they're gunna get it.
 

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Originally posted by Mintyfresh
Then i said something about how even if they're comfortable she needs some new shoes that dont annoy the hell out of people and that wouldn't fit a toddler (they were seiously the smallest shoes ive ever seen). Fluff talk for a couple more minutes, obvious she wanted me to ask for her number ... but her eyes were coved with ugly eye shadow hehe... she asked if i walked by there any other time during the week ... i told her she could catch up with me in the same spot the day after tomorrow (to prove herself to me mostly.)
Hmm... anyone else think this guy's fake? :confused: Doesn't sound like you made the best impression there. She wanted you to ask for her number? Is that so?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Hmm... anyone else think this guy's fake?
read my other posts, I asked plenty of stupid AFC questions. I have nothing prove nor am i bragging, thread is just an expression of how happy i am that i can approach and do pretty well even if im still scared to. It's flattering that you think my stories are fake in a way though heh.

Doesn't sound like you made the best impression there.
so now you're saying that busting on chicks and teasing them in a playful way isn't good ? who's really the fake ...

She wanted you to ask for her number? Is that so?
ya you're completely right you can tell when a girl wants you to ask for her number lol, i just meant it was obvious that she didn't want to break the conversation. I was wrong to type that, but i did it in a hurry at campus (actually writing this from campus right now).

he probably talked to a girl and didn't get rejected for the first time ever, and now thinks he is the DJ amoung DJ's
tell you the truth I've done under 25 cold approaches, and I've been rejected a few times, but really more often than not the girls i approach are pretty friendly (more so now that im not afraid to tease them and s-hit). No need to be an a-sshole though lol, you don't know me i don't know you, at least let there be indifference between us.

If this post came off as bragging in anyway, that was not my intentions. I was just rather happy that I could see myself (once too scared to even look a female in the eyes) progressing nicely to the path of DJ.

The two approaches i posted in this thread were real, just something bugged me about both of the girls and i honestly did not want either of thier numbers.

edit: ****in A, the girl next to me in the computer lab was pretty good looking, I really regret typing this reply instead of talking to her lol.... also on my way in here this hot chick with her friend was checking me the hell out, next time i see her around (have seen her around quite a few times before) I think im going to say something like this "Oh look its that girl who will check out random guys but doesn't have the balls to say hello" ... expecting her to say either "you didnt say hello either!" or "I wasn't checking you out" ... i got some ****y and funny replys for those in my head heh.

I think im going to start an approach journal so more people that think they're internet bada-sses and wanna call me a fake will direct thier attentions elsewhere.

Alright time to go approach at least two girls before im happy with myself for today... ill give myself say ... 40 minutes to find two decent girls to try and number close.
 
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