"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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more miss than hit!

ChanceBoudreaux

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cold approaches i'm finding more miss than hit

i've been doing day cold approaches for a solid 2+ years and what i have learnt is that its very hit and miss, mostly miss , strange thing if something did happen it was on a day that i wasn't bothering to sarge,my game was off, i was in a ****ty mood, i wasn't even looking and those time i had my best non approach with a girl, it just happened, what made that approach any different than the other aprroaches i have made in the past, i dont know, even after alot of analysing

whenever i put fourth my best 100% effort i would most of the time get nowhere and as a fellow introvert interacting can be very draining
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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times and location of spotting a mark can be very random too, i wish there was a set time and place it would save me a hell lot of time and energy wasted on the hunt but it doesnt work like that

there should be a timetable like for buses but for girls
 

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It's totally luck based when you don't know what you're doing. Try improving your quality. Trying is like powerball, If you play, you have a chance. If not, you're a loser.

Women don't come with instruction manuals.

Have you tried bringing a girl with you to social settings? That'll boost your value.
 

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yea the only time i like doing cold approaches is at clubs or bars. on the street it has been a big waste of time for me. if a girl doesnt give me that look or a smile i dont even want to talk to her.
 

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In my experience, the only setting in which you will have more hit than miss is in social circle game. Think about it...they are already "warmed up" to you, so if you got some game, you should be able to pull it off the majority of the time ;)

Cold approaching is just that...cold. Therefore, the women are usually gonna be cold. This statement might be a bit of a KBJ theory but I think the best of the best won't have THAT great of a percentage with cold approaches. I know mine isn't all that great. But guess what? You have to be in it to win it (credit Judge Nismo up there, whom I'd rep if I could...gotta spread it around haha).

SO, what do you prefer? 10% or 0%?

It's a numbers game bruh...law of large numbers, ever heard of it? Given enough trials (cold approaches), your success rate is going to move UP towards YOUR average...and as long as you are committed to improving YOURSELF and YOUR GAME, that average will be a lot better than 0%.

SO are you going to pity yourself, whine, complain, and cry "woe is me!"?

OR, are you gonna grab your balls, realize you're a man, and keep approaching???

Because if COMPLEMENT your cold approaching with all other aspects of the dating scene (ie social circle game, bar/club game, online dating), you'll find that each little approach means NOTHING. Remember...plate theory. Spin plates. The more women, the less each one matters. Same thing here...the more approaches, the less each one matters. And therefore, the MORE SUCCESS!! :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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those time i had my best non approach with a girl, it just happened, what made that approach any different than the other aprroaches i have made in the past, i dont know, even after alot of analysing
Maybe the difference was the girl. Maybe you just finally hit upon a target that was receptive to being approached, or that found you more attractive than the others for whatever reason.

Maybe on those days you felt your game was off and you weren't trying, you came across as more authentic.
 
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