"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't know if people have been reading my past threads, but I have been on and off involved w/ thig girl for a bit over a month.
I don't really get her, I've been talking to her on line/text everyday, she always initiates the contact. She never seems to want to make plans, I got on her about it and she said it's bec. of her mental disorder(panic attacks, anxiety etc.) and she has to take it day to day, I know BAD news. I just left it alone, and then she stopped in to see me a work yesterday. Shes was w/ her Mom though, I personally think it was her Moms idea as I know her mother thinks I'm a very decent guy, and she was acting quite shy when they stopped in. Then after work I was out w/ my buddy and she text ed me as to where I was, I waited and then just told her I was at dinner. I then called her when I got done to see what she wanted, she told me she was doing nothing so I invited her over, I was having a few friends over anyways. About 5 mins later she texted me while I was on the phone and said she cant come as she doesn't have her car(BS I know). She kept texting me, but I pretty much ignored them, but she asked me to do something this weekend, I said we could tomm. meaning today.
Whats the deal? I think she is an AW. Any chance this could go anywhere?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She's NUTZ..



Ditch. Run. Hide. Invest in bullet prove vest.
 

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Nissanguy said:
Whats the deal? I think she is an AW. Any chance this could go anywhere?
Yep she is an AW and part of that is a result of her disorder (she has a borderline personality disorder, I am willing to bet on it). You are better of staying away from her life filled drama or you might end up going crazy yourself.
 

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I actually got so wrapped up in trying to "help" this one girl with problems once that I got all down about it. Then I'm at the therapist's office and the guy is getting paid like 100 bucks an hour to provide common logic: "So why hang out with these sorts of people if it gets to you?" "What's the advantage of being around unhappy people when you can be around happy people?"

And you know what? That chick is now doing alright. She may be an AW with a history that makes the rest of the school cringe when someone mentions her, but she's back on track. And I got my @ss outta there and occupied myself with other stuff.
 

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DJDamage said:
Yep she is an AW and part of that is a result of her disorder (she has a borderline personality disorder, I am willing to bet on it). You are better of staying away from her life filled drama or you might end up going crazy yourself.
Yeah I agree totally, just thinking maybe I could get laid. But she would prob. have a panic attack if that ever happend, lol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She have an intense fear of you abandoning her, did you find any strange cut or burn marks anywhere on her, did she ever rage at you for seemingly no reason at all, does she drink or use drugs, does she act nice when you are in public but horrible to you behind closed doors, and does she act like a total hypocrite to you?

Answering yes to most of these could mean you are dealing with a borderline and while its true that anxiety and panic attacks can accompany some of the Cluster B personality disorders just a person exhibiting anxiety and panic attacks alone isn't enough to make them a BPD.

It just means they suffer from anxiety and panic attacks.
 
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