"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't know if people have been reading my past threads, but I have been on and off involved w/ thig girl for a bit over a month.
I don't really get her, I've been talking to her on line/text everyday, she always initiates the contact. She never seems to want to make plans, I got on her about it and she said it's bec. of her mental disorder(panic attacks, anxiety etc.) and she has to take it day to day, I know BAD news. I just left it alone, and then she stopped in to see me a work yesterday. Shes was w/ her Mom though, I personally think it was her Moms idea as I know her mother thinks I'm a very decent guy, and she was acting quite shy when they stopped in. Then after work I was out w/ my buddy and she text ed me as to where I was, I waited and then just told her I was at dinner. I then called her when I got done to see what she wanted, she told me she was doing nothing so I invited her over, I was having a few friends over anyways. About 5 mins later she texted me while I was on the phone and said she cant come as she doesn't have her car(BS I know). She kept texting me, but I pretty much ignored them, but she asked me to do something this weekend, I said we could tomm. meaning today.
Whats the deal? I think she is an AW. Any chance this could go anywhere?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She's NUTZ..



Ditch. Run. Hide. Invest in bullet prove vest.
 

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Nissanguy said:
Whats the deal? I think she is an AW. Any chance this could go anywhere?
Yep she is an AW and part of that is a result of her disorder (she has a borderline personality disorder, I am willing to bet on it). You are better of staying away from her life filled drama or you might end up going crazy yourself.
 

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I actually got so wrapped up in trying to "help" this one girl with problems once that I got all down about it. Then I'm at the therapist's office and the guy is getting paid like 100 bucks an hour to provide common logic: "So why hang out with these sorts of people if it gets to you?" "What's the advantage of being around unhappy people when you can be around happy people?"

And you know what? That chick is now doing alright. She may be an AW with a history that makes the rest of the school cringe when someone mentions her, but she's back on track. And I got my @ss outta there and occupied myself with other stuff.
 

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DJDamage said:
Yep she is an AW and part of that is a result of her disorder (she has a borderline personality disorder, I am willing to bet on it). You are better of staying away from her life filled drama or you might end up going crazy yourself.
Yeah I agree totally, just thinking maybe I could get laid. But she would prob. have a panic attack if that ever happend, lol.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She have an intense fear of you abandoning her, did you find any strange cut or burn marks anywhere on her, did she ever rage at you for seemingly no reason at all, does she drink or use drugs, does she act nice when you are in public but horrible to you behind closed doors, and does she act like a total hypocrite to you?

Answering yes to most of these could mean you are dealing with a borderline and while its true that anxiety and panic attacks can accompany some of the Cluster B personality disorders just a person exhibiting anxiety and panic attacks alone isn't enough to make them a BPD.

It just means they suffer from anxiety and panic attacks.
 
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