"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Teej

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University just started this Monday here, and Saturday night I was out at the bars with about six friends.

Anyway, this cutie with two girl friends starts dancing right next to me and makes it pretty obvious that she wants to grind. I couldn't really dance to the song that was on at the time so I didn't go for it despite my friends pushing me, but she kept hovering around and looking back at me over and over, so as soon as the song changed I got behind her and started doing my thing. After about two songs she tells me she'll be right back, and her and her friends go off somewhere. She comes back and we dance some more and I try to get her name and ask her what program she's in, but it's loud as hell so I could barely make it out. I have a pretty uncommon name myself and I don't think she could make it out in the club. Eventually I think her friends wanted to leave. I was going to get her number but she beat me to it instead, and since I don't have a cell I told her pretty authoritatively "Just write yours on my hand, and your name." She got a pen off one of her friends, wrote her FULL name and number using up my whole palm, and we said our goodbyes and that was that.

I found her on Facebook and added her Monday night (the number on her Facebook page matched the one she gave me), and I sent her a message along the lines of "I don't think you ever got my name, but I'm sure you didn't forget the killer dance moves... ; P" She accepted the friend request almost immediately so I sent her another message "Got MSN? Mine's blah blah blah." Anyway, I haven't received a single message from her although she's been online several times that I've been online since Monday night, and she hasn't added my MSN either. First off, I'm wondering why someone would act that way, and secondly I'd like to know how to proceed from here. I would've liked to take her out to lunch or something, but I don't know what to do. I probably shouldn't message her again since that would be pretty lame, but I'm not sure what to do. Thanks!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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kdnash82

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i don't know how many times i have to tell people to get off their chats and start talking to these girls. think about your great grand father. if he had a phone, he probably wasn't allow to use it, so what did he do, he went to visit the girl.

your grand father probably had a phone, and probably called the girl up and asked her out. you father definately had a phone and definately called the girl up and asked her out. you get a computer and forget you have a telephone.

my point is. she gave you her number. don't play the whole waiting game. use the number and call her. remember that the poiint of the phone call is to set up a date. from the time she answers to the time you hang up should be no more than 3-5 minutes. use the first minute to make her understand who you are. use the rest to ask her out and work out as many details as you can.
 

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kdnash82 said:
i don't know how many times i have to tell people to get off their chats and start talking to these girls. think about your great grand father. if he had a phone, he probably wasn't allow to use it, so what did he do, he went to visit the girl.

your grand father probably had a phone, and probably called the girl up and asked her out. you father definately had a phone and definately called the girl up and asked her out. you get a computer and forget you have a telephone.

my point is. she gave you her number. don't play the whole waiting game. use the number and call her. remember that the poiint of the phone call is to set up a date. from the time she answers to the time you hang up should be no more than 3-5 minutes. use the first minute to make her understand who you are. use the rest to ask her out and work out as many details as you can.
Yeah, valid point, but she can type can't she? What's preventing her? MSN is almost as good as a phone if you use emoticons...
 

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Teej said:
Yeah, valid point, but she can type can't she? What's preventing her? MSN is almost as good as a phone if you use emoticons...

Teej? No wait, lemme change that.. ill preserve the double 'e' - make it Dweeb!

gah, get on the phone! I can't believe you are actually supporting the idea of chatting with emoticons! nooooooooow
 

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ducaro said:
Teej? No wait, lemme change that.. ill preserve the double 'e' - make it Dweeb!

gah, get on the phone! I can't believe you are actually supporting the idea of chatting with emoticons! nooooooooow
Some people here need to take it easy... I KNOW that I have no game, that's why I post here!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ducaro

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Teej said:
Some people here need to take it easy... I KNOW that I have no game, that's why I post here!
Sorry Teej.. I did not mean to sound rude, even though I ended up sounding so. Just that there are so many guys on here who just don't seem to 'get it' and we end up sounding harsh and loud. Just don't mean... its in sheer vain that we are trying to make you 'see reality' :up:
 

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Ignore.
 
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I disagree - she had high interest until she realised he didnt have the b@lls to phone and setup a date.

Now she's loking for a more confident man. She made it easy, gave him the number, and he's taken 2 steps back by going through facebook and msn....:down:

live and learn :cool:
 

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PectoralisMajor said:
I disagree - she had high interest until she realised he didnt have the b@lls to phone and setup a date.

Now she's loking for a more confident man. She made it easy, gave him the number, and he's taken 2 steps back by going through facebook and msn....:down:

live and learn :cool:
Ooops I misread, yes if he has the number then forget facebook/msn that's just silly. My bad for not reading properly. He should have at least texted her, that would have sufficed I think. Net stuff is a last resort usually.
 
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