"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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more emotional intimacy= easier kino? what do u think

lokariototal

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If u share ur feelings with a girl, if u open up ur heart and share ur dreams, insecurities, problems, values or whatever u want to share, do u think that she will be more open to kino, and that kino will be EASIER for u? do u think this will facilitate kino?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SBW

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I now fully agree that you should be very careful about talking about your own weak points but I do also agree that it can make the instigation and escalation of Kino a whole lot easier if you get the lady on to the subject of her own.

However, I've also been amazed at how easy it can be to get quickly into some pretty intimate kino without either of you going out on a limb emotionally, simply by talking about things you are passionate about anyway, dancing and just having the best time you can with them.

So yeah, sharing your dreams may be good but watch it for the rest. :)
 

Lexington

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I think it's actually the opposite. If you get into kino early on, you can more easily open the door for emotional intimacy. If you become emotionally intimate early on, you won't necessarily have the green light for kino/sex.

I say that from experience. I never had any issues becoming close friends with girls. I could get them to open up to me about their secrets and their insecurities etc. and I could share mine. But I couldn't bang any of them!

A girl will share her insecurities, secrets etc. with her friends. She'll discuss these things with gay guys. In fact, if she is discussing these things with you and you're not in a relationship, there's a good chance she's not sexually attracted to you. When you don't know a girl well, she should be trying to impress you and present her best image to you if she's attracted.

So don't wait for the kino. Start working on kino IMMEDIATELY. Just start out with some light touching after jokes etc. Then just start touching her shoulder. Then you can progress to putting your arm around her. Then you can move it down to the most curved part of her back.

If you have kino going you can be talking about the most superficial topics and STILL get laid. Like they say over and over again on this site, it's not what you say, it's HOW you say it!

The green light for sex isn't in what she says. It's what she allows you to do. If she's allowing you to touch her in ways that she wouldn't allow most people to touch her, she's ready to get it on.
 
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