"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Moral Dilemma

Reyaj

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It's like this....



There are a few girls that I have been chasing in the past, but never really was able to get anywhere with (they had bf's,low interest level etc..)

Well now that I am more of a DJ I have noticed that there is some interest level in me from these girls. I have an opportunity to use my skills and go for the pus$&#

But of course I am having second thoughts. See I know that I am not interested in much more than sex with these girls, and after/if I get some I am sure I will feel like my mission is accomplished.

These girls aren't bad people and I would be a real ass$#( to just get some and not follow through.


However I have always wanted to mess with these girls physically and now I have an opportunity to at least give it a decent shot. Whenever I decide its wrong, it bothers me that I am blowing an opportunity. And when I decide to do it I feel guilty as if I am leading them on.



What should I do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MacDiddy

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I'd rather encourage you to not do it and be the lazy loser that allows people like me to get in and take your chicks away... then allow them to come back to you when I'm done and use you as their emotional tampon as they reminise about the great time they had with me and how they'll do it all over again... kinda drive you further into their LBJF zone...

So.... what SHOULD you do????
 

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Well...if they are single and interested and you are up front and honest that you aren't looking for a relationship and anything that went on would be a casual thing then if anything happened you wouldn't have a reason to feel guilty. If your conscience bothers you like this (which I happen to find to be a VERY admirable trait) then just be honest about your intentions and take it from there.
 

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The thing is.... I know how to make these girls feel good.

I listen to them, I use sincere compliments etc...


Im sure they will see LTR and if I get them to put out, that will be in their head.


I would be leading them on possibly....

But on the other hand, I wanted to band these broads for so long.
 

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Bro...bang em.

You know, as long as you're honest and up front with them about not wanting a relationship...then they have to respect you for that. If it becomes some kind of game for the girl to try to change you after you slept with her and told her you don't want a relationship...then thats HER problem not yours.

Yeah...its easier said than done. Although we're GUYS, yeah, we have feelings too and it looks like you're not out to intentionally hurt these girls.

But the best thing you can do is be honest if you just want the FB status, you maybe surprised that its all she wants too.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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