Mood Swings

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Around college. Proper secure about myself. Don't seem to care about finding a girlfriend. All Good

At home. Feel lonely, insecure and wonder why I don't have a girlfriend.

Bad cycle

 

[Furyguy]

What do you mean by home? Like "I'm home on break for two weeks and then I go back to college" or like "I'm done with classes for the day and now I'm home until I wake up tomorrow and go back to college."

If it's the first one, it's probably just because college rules so much that home is boring by comparison. That's how I usually get, anyways.

You don't have a girlfriend yet because you haven't found anyone worthy lately. Right?

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

I'm done with classes for the day home

Yeah it's becuase I have not found a person I am attracted to but when I do see someone I am attracted to (very rare for some reason) the oneitis kicks in and it becomes hard to approach.

Seriously since last Septembr I have only been attracted to 2 girls. One I got with in town after clubbing.

The other I find impossible to approach yet I know I am easily good enough for her and I could get her in my bed in less than a month.

I need a kick over the edge

 

[Furyguy]

I know how that goes man. Pain in the ass. It's so much more difficult when you give a ****. The good ones are so rare.

All I can say is make your move before someone else does.

 

[Farmboy]

I'm done with classes for the day home

Yeah it's becuase I have not found a person I am attracted to but when I do see someone I am attracted to (very rare for some reason) the oneitis kicks in and it becomes hard to approach.

Seriously since last Septembr I have only been attracted to 2 girls. One I got with in town after clubbing.

The other I find impossible to approach yet I know I am easily good enough for her and I could get her in my bed in less than a month.

I need a kick over the edge

College was much the same for me as well. Sure does suck when you have girls that you can't stand practically stalking you and when you finally find a tootsie roll in the turd pile, you can't pull the trigger and go for it.

About a year and a half ago there was a girl who caught my eye in one of my classes. At first I just took note of her tattoos and thought "cool", but when it became apparent that she and I were the only two people in the whole class that didn't have our heads up our asses, I got hit bad with oneitis. She sat across from me in lab and we both became de-facto tutors for the rest of the students becasue we were the only people who knew what the hell we were doing (her from study, me from previous experience). As the semester dragged on I got more and more desparate to do something, anything, to ask her out. I finally forced myself to do it after our finals. My AFC reasoning was that if I assed it up really bad I wouldn't have to deal with seeing her 5 days a week. My weak game imploded on itself when she mentioned her boyfriend and my pickup attempt died with a whimper. I was absolutely furious with myself for being such a chickensh*t about the whole thing.

She is the reason I came here.

I read almost every article on the front page and read almost every post here on the forums.

The next semester I actually got asked out by a girl I had known from the previous year by giveing her periods of attention and IOIs followed by ignoring her completely. The sad thing is that now I'm at the same stage as you are now: I can work my game ok with girls I'm not that interested in (which is almost every girl I meet), but still get hit with oneitis like feelings whenever I finally find a girl I do like. My advice to you is the same advice I try to force myself to follow: ask her out no matter how scared you get of rejection, because the worst outcome is having her slip away becasue you were too chicken or indecisive to go for it.

In reference to your first post, what is your family like? I kinda had the same thing going on with the feeling bummed at home stuff becasue my family isn't exactly the most functional or supportive of environments. (Mom was a BPD sufferer (and a christian fundamentalist), and dad was a desperate AFC who married the first girl that would screw him and played "captian save a ho" to her.)

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

I wouldn't say my family are 'dysfunctional' so to speak. They seem like a normal bunch. However since I turned 18 there seems to be more pressure from them for me to get a girlfriend. I can't help wondering if my Dad just wants me to get a girlfriend just so he can tell his mates down the pub about me. Fair play to him but no need to force it on me. My female cousin who is a bit of a slag has boyfriends all the time and whenever they visit it's always 'So TheWayOfAllFlesh when are you bringing someone home for us'. **** like that really hurts, whether it was intentional or not. I really don't need pressure like that from family. Even friends who joke by saying 'If you don't have sex by the time you turn 19 we will get you a prostitute' really hits where it hurts. Oh and my younger brother was mugged when he was younger and now only leaves the house for school. Shame really...lovely family...even the ones that look good on the outside are rubbish on the inside. Like a Kinder Surprise